Hey Rose,I was thinking about you all day! I was wondering how your session went with the domestic abuse group. It sounds like it went very well. I think it's good that the group did not get too deep into issues this time since it was your first time there. It may have been too overwhelming for you if they have delved into domestic abuse right off the bat. But the way it worked, it probably allowed you time to get your bearings and see how the group worked. From your description, it seemed they were all very accepting and felt safe with each other. I like they way you contacted the one worker to let them know that you needed support. That was great! It would have been easy for you to decide to just leave. But you faced it and asked for the support you needed to do so. Good for you.It sounds like Sam had other plans today besides attending class! It may be a good idea to set some boundaries with him so next time he asks to stay home, he knows you are going to say no. And it seems Mark needs some boundaries as well. Talk about everyone encroaching in your personal space! How do you feel about telling Mark that you no longer want to talk? That means he should only come to see Dave and no longer count on you to sit and converse. You can be direct with him without being mean. That would help you have less stress to deal with. Good night, Rose. Sleep well! You mentioned that Tuesdays are your difficult days so if I do not hear from you, know that you are in my thoughts.Katex
It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed by something. Maybe when you get back to home, you and I can talk about it, if you have time.
Are you still seeing K tonight?
Thank you Rose!The best way to decide about signing the form is to decide what is holding you back. Is it fear of what Dave will do? Is it that you don't really want a divorce? Or is it something else? Once you know what is holding you back, you can work through it. It also helps to know your goals. Do you want out of the marriage or to stay in it? Is there a big reason why divorcing is not a good idea? What are your feelings about your future?By asking those questions of yourself, you can get a clearer picture of what you want to do. If you do decide you want the divorce and feel it would help to have support, have K help you. But only if you are sure Dave won't be around to see you.Kate