Thank you for waiting. I had to be away from JA all day due to my patient work outside.
I can imagine how worried you must have been about your friend.
You really know her true situation. I can feel you care about her a lot.
I would try to talk to her mom about your concerns, though I am not sure of your friend's reaction to you.
It sounds like her mom (and dad) may not be aware of her social behavior. Her family may be dysfunctional. Or her parents may be in denial of their daughter's problems.
Her marijuana addiction and alcohol abuse
are a red flag of her recovery; these addiction may aggravate her mood swings.
Her current treatment are not helping her condition much as she continues to use pot and alcohol and seems to be failing from school.
She also feels she is not loved by her mom. Perhaps, her and her mom may need family counseling as well as her counseling.
I can understand why she (or her behavior)hurt you and left you angry and confused as she suffers from wild mood swings and possible personality disorders that she may have developed since childhood.
You love her dearly. So, her behavior hurt you. Her post and alcohol abuse will not help your friend to get better as these will worsen her condition.
If you want to do something to help her condition, you may write a letter regarding your concern to her parents and/or even her therapist. Your concerns are valid. Her continued use of marijuana and alcohol will not help her to get better, even she attends counseling weekly. Hopefully, her therapist should know her current condition.
Your friend may need an intensive inpatient treatment.
Please let me know if you have a question.
All the best,