Thank you for your reply.
I can imagine how sad
and anxious this situation must seem to you.
It's definitely difficult for you to allow your wife to be outside the country for months.
Your anger may have to do with feelings of sadness and anxiety
I don't think your feelings of anger is abnormal, though it doesn't help you and your wife to survive this challenge.
Also, it may be a little late for you to complain of her decision as she's already left to another country for her research.
However, I understand you can't help feeling angry at her for her decision. You've made sacrifices for her dream.
Perhaps, you may try to communicate (talk about) your feelings (anger, anxiety and sadness) with your wife instead of doing what you've done so far.
If you feel like your wife can't hear your honest feelings of sadness, you may talk to someone else like your family and friends.
Honestly, your wife should listen to your feelings unless you yell at her on the phone.
Also, you may benefit from working with a counselor WEEKLY for one or two month or so if your feelings are overwhelming to you.
You may benefit from Cognitive-Behavior therapy (CBT).
You can call your insurance company and get a list of providers in your area.
Or, you can search a licensed psychotherapist or a counselor on internet- such as the PSYCHOLOGY TODAY website. Go to (http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764) and enter your zip code and optional category of specialty such as Anger. Read psychotherapists’ profile to see if he or she specializes in Cognitive-Behavior therapy (CBT).
You may also want to create your mental image of psychotherapist that you want to work with – Male or female? Old or young? To note, many therapists offer initial consultation for free. So you can see it as an informational meeting. You and he can ask any question. You can also negotiate psychotherapy fee and number of sessions.
If you need a low fee counseling or have no health insurance, you may call The United Way toll free # XXXXX (Dial 2-1-1)to find the community mental health centers in your area in which you can get counseling even without health insurance.
I hope you can manage anger and emotionally survive for your marriage.
Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any. Warm regards,