none she thinks she may be bi-polar 2 but she's never been tested
a couple years ago her college friend died-shes 46 nad she went into a 2 year depression. She hadn't spoken to this guy in 15 years just xmas cards. When he died she wasn't ever informed of it she found it on-line. They never even dated in college
just seems strange. she then went away for a weeding out of town with her sister and met her old painter friend-she had been his model. He told her about working through big troubles in his marriage but they came out of it. She came back from that and became manic working out etc study etc. and I said what was going on and she said she might want to be alone. then she refused to go to marriage counseling or talking about the marriage for 2 years until when I asked her again why she was so manin diet ingf mediatating etc on the heels of another trip away with her sister
she is very sensetive she says she feels unsafe with me. I asked her why and she stated that once when we were talking about horses she said that a pony is a type of hirse I said it was a young horse. My Dad was sitting there and I asked him andf he said my wife was correct. She had been holding on to this "slight" for 13 years.
so it's these "slights" or me not listening and "getting her" but she never told me for all these years that makes her feel unsafe to share with me. Now I'm in therapy but she says it's too late. She claims there is no one else
we get along wonderfully at home all of us her and me and the children-it's crazy everyone thinks we have the perfect marraige. she is very insular and calls people very rarely
yes she's reading Pema chodron the buddist monk
The author/monk is twice divorced and i see that Buddha himself left his wife and child
So now she has the green light to ask for a separation because she satisfied my request to go to marriage counseling even though all she said was that she wouldn't work on it
soulshift sounds to me like bull shit, a way to get out without ever doing any work on the marriage. My 3 kids deserve us doing the work
so i sit here not knowing when the axe will officially fall on the marriage meanwhile we have lovely days together
I guess that's the big question she says that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore and wouldn't consider trying to save the marriage when asked at our one and only marriage counseling. she clainms there is no one else and we tall each other we love each other every day and kiss and hug. She probably resents me for trying to keep her in the marriage but when I said I would do what she wanted she lit up and it deflated the whole situation. can she come back from being that checked out?
Does it sound to you like there is someone else? She does text with a happily married old friend from 20 years ago