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Rose, you always bring a smile to my face! I could just imagine bears chasing me or surprising me on the porch. I actually had a bear visit on another vacation, climbing all over the truck parked in the driveway. It is not an event for the weak hearted :)
I hope you had a good night. I will check in tonight in case you post.
Rose,Thank you! Last night being 21 indeed! Gosh, I wish. Though I would want that youth with a large does of the experience I have now. I couldn't imagine being that naive again!I think it's perfectly fine that you take your meals elsewhere away from Dave. You are asking him to leave and he is refusing. He has to know that by staying, he is making things difficult. If you carry on as usual, then he will think everything is ok and he can stay. He thinks that now, or maybe it's just what he puts out there to make it sound like he believes it. Inside, I think he is well aware that everything is not fine. But he is probably so resistant to being on his own, he does what he can to ignore the situation, hoping you will give in.The more you protect yourself and show him that you are not going to change your mind, the better it is for you. He may not like it and try to escalate his behavior, but that only means you are being effective in your message that he needs to go. I hope Sam does well on his exams. Does he feel he cannot study because of the ADHD or other reasons?Poppy with black hair, hmmm. It sounds like she is a typical teen, trying on different personas. Nikki had me put blond streaks in her hair yesterday. She has light brown hair so they look nice. But she really wants green and blue ends on her hair. Thankfully the hair stylist is hesitant to do it due to her age. Add to that the expense and it's out of the question!I hope your doctor does get back to you. Let me know what she says if she does.Thank you so much for the pictures of Pooh! I enjoyed waking up to that, smiling. You are always so thoughtful, Rose. And I'm glad to have you share the day with me.Kate
No breakfast in bed but that is ok. I'm not big on that anyway. We are going to eat out for dinner though so I'll save my appetite for that!
I hope work is going well for you.
Talk with you soon,
Thank you, Rose! I appreciate it.I am sorry about your argument with Poppy. What happened, if you don't mind me asking?How was your session with Karen?It's interesting that Dave wants a long conversation with you. I imagine that he will be focused on staying with you and in the home. Do you feel you want to talk with him? Because there is a choice about it. You don't have to. You can always let him know that you are done with the situation and the only thing you need from him is the date when he is leaving, or words to that effect. Or you can talk with him if you want. But if you do, you may want to take time to think through what you want to say. He may try to distract you and confuse you, or even blame you and turn this in to an argument to upset you. Try working on three or four statements you feel would answer most of what he might say. It's hard to do when you are not sure exactly what he might say, but you may already have an idea after all the "talks" you have had before. If you do come up some general statements, try sticking to them no matter what he says. That will help you stay in control and feel calmer when you talk with him.Let me know how it goes. I will on the road today and hope to reach home by this evening. I'll check in then. You are in my thoughts, Rose. Kate
I responded to the post on the other thread. I'm sorry that JA is not letting you post ahead of time. That makes it easier for you. Maybe they will work out a way to let you do something that works!
See you on the other thread,