Hi, my son just turned 5. He has a great family and very positive people around him at all times, and has never experienced any hardships at home. He has had a very upbeat, funny and happy personality his whole life.
But recently he has been saying things that have caused me to be very worried. A few months ago, he started saying, "boys are bad". And then when I asked him why he would say "I don't know, I just think they are". My husband and I would always try to encourage him and tell him how wonderful they are, but it never seemed to help his mood about this. He also has said a few times that he wished he could die. When I ask him why, his answer is that he wants to see what heaven is like. I never know what to make of this.
Then the other night when he was getting ready for bed, said, "I'm bad Mommy." I told him that of course he's not bad and his mood and demeanor just got really sad
. This shocked me because nobody in our family ever says "bad boy" or "you're being bad", or anything like that to him, and frankly, he is a wonderfully behaved boy. I asked my 8 year old daughter who was sitting there too why he might say that and she said, "I don't know, he says that alot" and then to him she said sweetly, "you're not bad". I asked him over and over why he thinks he's bad and his only answer would be "I don't know why, I just think so". Since he said this, I have asked him about it a few times and every time I mention it, his smile disappears and he immediately goes into a very dismal mood with a sad face. I try asking him if anyone told him he's bad or has encouraged him to do something that he thinks is bad, and his answer is always no.
He says that he doesn't like school, and when I ask him why, his answer is always the same: that he misses me and he doesn't like that he has to take naps there. But he doesn't cry when I drop him off to school, and he always seems happy to see his friends. When I pick him up, he's usually in a great silly mood. One day his teacher told me he had a very sad day and that he would barely leave her side that day. But he had a normal morning, so I didn't understand why he would have a bad day because it's unlike his personality. All of this worries me that something may be going on at school to cause these worries he is having. Please, what are your thoughts or suggestions?