Thank you for your question. Before providing recommendations, I was wondering if you can tell me more about this teen? What is your relationship with her and when did these issues first started?
Have you considered having her attend therapy?
Dear XXXXX: This all goes back when she was12. I am her grandmother.Her school work grades began falling then.She felt she was not loved enough. She has two older brothers. I saw she was sad many times. None of her teachers cared about her down on grades.She has parents at home, parents did not always do the right thing.Kept punishing her and yelling.
Thank you for your response. Do you feel your granddaughter is being abused by her parents?
Brad: no they are not but they don't know how to handel situations with her, they just say your grounded and don't find out first what the problem is.They don't discuss the problem with her. I told this to my daughter.
I see, have you asked if they would try to get your granddaughter to therapy for the self-injurious behaviors?
Does your granddaughter confide in you?
At this very moment she is in the hospital for behave problems. She was told that she is addicted to hurting herself and she will have to overcome this by herself. She is group theraphy. She is on anti-depressant. Past month she had seen a counsler in her city and nothing come of it.
I am happy to hear that she is in the hospital receiving the help she needs. If the counselor she saw was not effective, I suggest for her to find another therapist that would be a better fit. One of the reasons why she is having self-injurious behaviors is because this is giving her a sense of control when she does these behaviors. In addition, cutting also gives a sensation of relief (although it is only temporary.)
Here is a website with more information regarding this type of behaviors:
Does she have to stop this by herself and will medication help her depression. Thank you
Medication can help but treatment is done through behavioral techniques through therapy
Medications only decreases current symptoms, but for her to maintain the behaviors, coping skills are needed in case she experiences a trigger to cut again
Finding a good therapist is hard and it cost the family a lot of money.The hospital she is in is just for behavior problems, so we feel OK about that. She just lays around and does nothing there and her Mom said she looks like a zoombie.She has been there two days and today is three.
If you do not mind sharing, what city and state does your granddaughter reside in? Also, does she have private insurance?
I may be able to find a referral for you
She lives in Warsaw, In and the big city by them is Ft. Wayne, In which is a big medical center. I would love if you could do that for us.
give me two minutes and I will get you a referral
Have you tried Park Center?
That is where she maybe. Is it connected with Parkview Hospital in Ft.Wayne
it is not, actually
Where is Park Center located at
park center is a private, nonprofit that offers outpatient services for adults and children
909 East State BoulevardFort Wayne, IN 46805(260)(NNN) NNN-NNNNor toll free: 1-866-481-2700
Is it in Ft. Wayne?
Parkview is a healthcare provide which is different from Park Center
OK got the info, but the Father just has regular insurance from his company. Can I print out our conversation for myself and daughter
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also, Parkview may also provide referrals for outpatient services when your granddaughter is discharged
when she is being discharged, make sure the first appointment is already scheduled.
do you have any further questions?
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Brad where are you?
I'm right here
Do you have any further questions?
Brad, just one more question, you said she gets a "sensation of relief"
Yes, that could be one of many reasons for self-injurious behaviors
Brad: One more question. you said she get a "sensation of releif" could you explain this. When she cuts it hurts.
You mean it hurts her physically, correct?
Yes, the sensation of relief can be described similarly to a kettle with water. When you boil the water, it becomes steam and the steam pours out of the kettle. Well, when one feels overwhelmed with feelings, this person may not know what to do the internal "boiling that is occurring, thus, by cutting oneself, it provides a sense of relief
When one is feeling emotionally overhwhelmed, they do not know how they feel so the cutting sensations allows them to "feel" something...be it pain
Do you have any other questions?
Thank you so much for the explanation. To me that is mental trouble. My family all have depression and now my daughter's children. Brad you were a great help and I appreciate your answers. I wish you good luck and peace be with you. LILLIE
I wish you and your family all the best!!!!
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