Hello. I am sorry to hear about your problem. I would like to help you as best I can.
i would appreciate the help, thank you for taking the time to speak with me
Not a problem at all, I hope i can offer you some relevant help. As I understand, you are having difficulty at your job. Can you tell me what it is you do for a living?
I'm back in the Mortgage industry as a Home loan processor.
Do you know where your anxiety comes from most? I feel that under pressure and anxiety, most people over time who feel unsupported experience much of the same feeling you have. It helps to separate what feelings you have and where they are coming from.
My anxiety comes from having too many home loans in my own pipeline.
basicaly i'm responsible for 150+ loans every month.
in my resonsibilities it is my job to communicate and realate information to every client in my pipeline as well as 4 or 5 other cliesnt withint the filed as well.
Wow, I understand how you feel. Is there a solution to your large workload that we may be able to explore or do you believe that nothing can change in terms of work/workload at this time?
it is very overy whelming and the company i work for basicaly only cares about numbers and not employees.
i have been in this industry for over 15 years. in 2007 the industry took a turn for the worst and left me unemployed and almost homeless.
I finaly was able to get a job in another field and loved it for 3 years but then that job went away as well.
Your not the only one who feels that way. I get more and more patients in many different fields feeling the same way. So at this time, you are "stuck" working for these people, feel like you are over worked with no support, and have no choice because finding another job is extremely difficult... The good news is that there are answers for your anxiety. There are skill you can learn and use in order to cope with your anxiety and reduce your stress.
It must be difficult to go back after a three year hiatus, especially when you loved it.
I was unemployed again and my husband help me get a job where he works at but it was back in the mortgage industry which has always been demanding
So it sounds like your husband is supportive and able to help you, but the outcome was less than a perfect answer
how is your support network outside of work? Family and friends? Do you have children? What is your life like outside of work?
All of those things are resources to help you to feel good, unwind, relax, vent, and seek comfort. That is of course if they are not adding to stress and anxiety.
my husband is supportive to a degree, I mean i know he loves me and is there for me bu emotionaly he is drained himself from this company. I don't have any children, I take solace in my dogs
The first and most important thing you should know is that any solution is going to require you to do the work. Many people find deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation exercises helpful. It takes time to learn them and practice, and they are best when used with other skills as well. It is typically the first skills I teach when utilizing CBT to work with a patient. CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. It works by changing the thinking patterns, which changes behaviors, which results on feeling better.
Dogs are wonderful! I am sure they give you comfort and unconditional love every day. And it sound like you and your husband have a lot in common, at least in how working at this company makes you feel. Do you get to spend time together often?
trust me I have tried everything i know. again I'm 41 years old and have a pretty good life, not complaing too much but the last 6 or 7 years have been very stressfull and depressing.
6 or 7 years is a long time. I am sorry to hear it has been such a struggle. What type of solutions are you looking for now? What do you think would help you most right now?
Me and my husband spend almost every minute togther, we carpool to the same job togther and come home at the same time together.
That sounds like it could be the best thing in the world for some people... or a source of stress for others. How do you see it?
Thats the thing, I'm not sure what solutions are out there for me, what do you suggest?
a little of both
Well, I always suggest to take care of yourself first. I don't know your financials, but there are plenty of options. Some people get a monthly or even weekly massage. Others cannot afford that luxury but are able to have a weekly massage night with their spouse for free instead. Hot showers and scented candles. Many people including myself find it helpful to come home from work and change the ambiance in the evening to candles and light meditation music of nature sounds and to spend a little time deep breathing and erasing the day so they can enjoy the night. It creates a separation so the days of work don't just run together. Walking and any physical exercise. Changing your diet even can help if you do not eat healthy.
I also highly recommend therapy. Not because something is broken but instead because you dont want to break. your under immense pressure. Seeing a professional in person allows them to explore your issues mush deeper and also to explore many more dimensions of the problem. You would feel a lot better just from having that 45 minutes of talking each week as a venting session. More skills could be taught and you would have better ways to cope.
those are great sugeestion, only I have been doing just that for the past 6 or 7 years as well. My finances are not the problem I have money saved, my housing payment in low, me and my husband make good moeny and we do get messages once a month, and for the last 3 months every week.
Thats great to hear, except for that it is not helping make your situation any better.
Not it isn't, hoping to find sopme answers here
Unfortunately, this is a hard question to answer over the internet. I truly feel the best answer at this point is therapy.
Have you ever tried it before?
Ofcourse you do
Thanks for time and I hope yopu didn't take out too many stundent loans for that advise you just gave
Why would you say that?
I am on line right now not for money but to try to help
I'm sorry if i offended you but really therapy, at my age if you haven't had therapy god help all of us
I understand. Many people still feel a stigma with therapy. What upsets me is therapy didnt help
What I can say, without a doubt, is that there are answer to your problems. If the problem is work, the simple answer is find a new job. if you cant, the problem is more than just your job.
Start looking at all your problems and how they are related. Find the common area. Make small changes and see the impact. And of course, use your support system. Thats all I have for you in this venue. I am sorry I could not help more. I do hope things get better and wish you luck.
realy thats all you have
what a waste of time
thanks for your time, nice to know some people can slepp at knight even when they should stay awake pondering the advise they just gave. How old are you?
no respsone, typicall, meter maid
Im sorry your frustrated. And I am old enough to private practice and run the Quality Assurance dept of a behavioral health program successfully.
I wonder... would you tell me why you think nothing has helped you yet?
honestly i'm not sure, i was hoping to get the answers here
i can come across a little harsh, i don't mean to and if you know me in person you would know I'm not
i find the internet to be impersonal
I understand, and again, I am sorry I did not have the answer. I am sure your quite frustrated. I find for me personally, it has become nothing less than balance that helps. Dr. Seuss said once, "Step with care and great tact, for life is a great big balancing act." Those words have never been so true. Buddhism helps me as well, and many of my coworkers and mentors subscribe to much of it.
But no one things is always going to help. You need to have many ways to cope. And you and your husband should be working together- your in the same boat- dealing with the same evil company. And again, I do know what that is like because my wife and I both work together for the same hospital.
really, this website is a crock of shit and if you think your a therapist, you are trully a dumbass
Wow. You log on and offer $11 to change your life. And you then act like this. I think were done here. Have a nice life, I feel sorry for you, truly. Please go in peace and I hope things work out.
hope you enjoy the $22.00 i gave you for BS advice. you should be a telemarketer, wait maybe you where in the 80-, dumbass