Welcome, I'm a professional counselor and behavioral-consultant. I'd like to chat with you for a few moments to better understand your question and the situation you're describing.
Hi. Are you able to chat right now?
Great thank you.
I'd like to start by suggesting that you get therapy. A good place to start would be cognitive behavioral therapy. Here is a great overview of "CBT": http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/MY00194
What are your thoughts?
i agree but i do have some reluctance when it comes to being forced into medication, barring that, i am more than willing to seek help. i realize that these issues cannot be solved over night
Very true. And I'm not suggesting medications in anyway. I'm suggesting a science proven therapy approach that helps you to really learn how to cope and learn new ways of thinking and interacting with people. This includes CBT interventions for past trauma.
i am willing to do that work
I would imagine that one of the fist issues you'd address in CBT would be the fear of working with a therapist. One of the highly practical strategies they teach is learning how to quickly and deeply relax yourself emotionally through relaxation training....
meditation or hypnosis?
Here is a great resource you can explore for practicing relaxation. It can be so helpful for people who have survived and are recovering from trauma, even serious PTSD:
It's not flashy site but the videos and audio training segments are very effective and based on the best research.
i occasionally have flashbacks, will the techniques help with those things?
As far as abuse, neglect etc, goes, there are some amazing CBT strategies they teach for learning to manage memories and problems coping in the present.
Yes, CBT with some one who specializes in trauma etc would be wonderful for you I think.
Do you have insurance coverage? Are you currently working?
i am working and i live in Canada, i don't have private insurance, so this will have to come out of my own pocket. i am hoping that it won't be too outrageously expensive
OHIP only pays for Psychiatry
Do you have an EAP program at work?
it is my own business and no i don't, i am a freelance bookkeeper, i do well enough to afford therapy once a week, how much more i might need i have no idea at this point
Ok. I thought I'd ask because EAP programs provide free therapy and most employees don't even know it.
I'm just researching for you online and I think Trauma Focused CBT for Adults would be a really good place for you to start...
Here's a good basic overview: http://www2.som.uq.edu.au/som/Research/PTSD/treatments/Lists/Treatments/View_Treatment_v2.aspx?List=b54278cc-10ab-4c68-b0ea-d71bb87c15af&ID=3
Would like me to try and help you find a therapist in your area?
yes, please, i live in Toronto, Canada
i could give you my postal code
if it helps
Well let me look first...I'll be back in a few moments. It's great you're in such a big city, as far as there being many CBT therapists there.....
Actually may I have your postal code?
Ok I found a good site to locate CBT therapists who specialize in Trauma and PTSD. Here is a very good list: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?sid=1334708178.889_16426&city=Toronto&state=ON&spec=19&trtmnt_orient=1&lmore=-2
oh wow, thank you
The postal code list ends at M6..
No problem. Can I help you with any other questions here today?
actually no, you have helped me beyond what i expected
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I wish you the very best. Take care.