Welcome, I'm a professional counselor and behavioral-consultant. I'd like to chat with you for a few moments to better understand your question.
my husband has a tendency to be negative and critical and sometimes insulting.
It affects my mood. When I tell him how his behaviors make me feel, I get met with more of the same type.. Defensiveness increases along with anger on his side. I am left with pain and humiliation. I need to build myself up exclusively and deflect and depersonalize to the best of my ability. Counseling he wont do, and I am not interested in returning to counseling. I've done that for quite a while.