I wanted to wait and see what her response was to your letter to see if their was any possible way to work this out. That will also depend on your feeling after you talk with her, if you choose to do so.
Yeah .. I assumed ... I just thought I needed to actually ask a question. :)
I didn't call her today to let her know I wouldn't be bringing a letter by. I kind of forgot, then I didn't feel like it. My luck, I wouldn't get her VM. Our office is closed for Good Friday, which is kind of nice, but I feel like I'll get even further behind. But I think it's important to close in observance of Good Friday, so .... guess I'll be working from home ... or in the office alone. :)
I'm going to try to start my letter tonight. I'm getting nervous about the whole thing. I will run it by you before I give it to her on Monday (?) I feel kind of like I'm mad/upset at her, but don't remember why, exactly. When i think of what it was that upset e, it now seems kind of trivial. But I feel upset, all the same.
Glad I got the subscription thing figured out. :)
I understand. Maybe reading through some of our old posts might help you write the letter.
Let me know how it goes. I will help anyway I can.
Hey Kate! Happy almost-Easter!
My weekend has not been too exciting, but that's just fine with me! Yesterday I rearranged my bedroom and took out Millie's crate (my dog, obviously). She's a really big dog, and loves her crate. I don't close the door or anything - she just hangs out in there a lot and sleeps in there. But it's huge. It's 3 feet by 4 feet, and 3 feet tall, and it just takes up a lot of room in a bedroom. So I took it out, collapsed it, and put it in the garage. I laid a blanket on the floor for her last night, and she slept there, but the poor thing has been looking for it all day. She keeps walking to the corner where she thinks it should be and just standing there. She has been giving me the most pathetic looks. I feel terrible. She is not the brightest animal in the world, so I am hoping she'll forget in a few days. ??
We're going to have P's whole family over after church for an Easter meal tomorrow. I think it's hard for her - she is now the matriarch of the family. She was the one who did everything like this anyway, but it always surrounded what her parents wanted to do. Plus - just having Easter without both of them. This morning when I was out for my banjo lesson, I picked up some tulips for her, because that's what she used to always give to her mom to have on the table at Easter. She started balling, which was not my intention. It's just so hard for her. I feel bad.
I read your list of attributes of a good therapist, and applied it to Linda.
At first, she said very little about herself, except that she was a Christian. Then she told me that her daughter had been drugged at a party by a guy and raped when she was 14. That was helpful for me to know. Now I know a whole lot about her. A lot is because I ask, and I appreciate that she's honest with me, but sometimes it is unsolicited. I tend to ask a lot of questions about her when I am trying to avoid doing or talking about something I don't want to.
There have been things here and there, but no major issue until the past few weeks. I just don't know. But she did offer months ago for her to refer me to someone else for EMDR, but I said no, because I didn't want to have to retell anything or experience stuff with a complete stranger. In my opinion, I feel like it wasn't that she didn't know how to do it - but she cut corners. I think she should have had her supervisor there the first time, and should have done a bit wore research on the possible reactions.
I think, too, that I might be a bit of a challenging client - not because my issues are particularly bad or that I have some kind of mental illness - but because I argue a lot. Not in a mean way, but if Linda says something to me, I need to challenge every angle of it before I can believe her, and I am very suspicious that she is saying things just to make me feel better, because that'd her job. (I'm sure you haven't noticed that I do any of these things :] ) So I think that is likely frustrating.
I will shortly type out the letter I wrote to Linda. The reason it has been so difficult is because I don't want to hurt her feelings or be unduly harsh. I like her and she has done a lot for me. I feel bad cutting on her.
It is interesting, however, how I pretty much instantly stopped seeing her as a mother figure - or anything at all, except a therapist. Hmmn.
I'll post with the letter soon...
PS - from what you said, I guess I'm NOT almost done with therapy :[
okay -- I'm not going to type out my letter to linda right now. I just got hit with a headache. I took some pills, but assuming they work, I will shortly be very tired and a little loopy. I'll either do it late tonight or tomorrow or Monday.
HAPPY EASTER, Kate!!
Hi Shay! Happy almost Easter to you too! I hope you enjoy your dinner tomorrow. It's always nice to spend time with the special people in your life.
Poor Millie! I'm sure she just needs time to adjust. Most dogs do. Mine like routine a lot and trying to change it usually throws them off for a while.
It sounds like Linda has a lot of attributes for a good therapist. That is good. The ones she does have are some very important ones. It is a little concerning that she shares more about herself than you need to know (even if you are curious!) because that can alter your therapy and makes it more on the level of friends rather than a professional relationship, making it harder to give you what you need.
Not knowing her limits with the EMDR is a bit rougher. That probably either should not have been attempted or like you said, a supervisor should have been present. Since you declined having another person do the EMDR, it would have been up to Linda to decide if she thought, based on her experience, that she was qualified to do it.
The arguing is an issue. And by that I do not mean that you are to blame. The arguing is a symptom. It is about your trust issues and your fear. A therapist needs to be able to see underneath what is going on in therapy to help you see the basic issue. If that is not happening, then something is missing for you.
It's ok that you hold off writing the letter today or even the next few days. Your concern that you do not want to hurt her feelings is fine. She has done a lot to be there for you and help you. Just keep in mind that this is about you. You need to take care of yourself first. Not that you have to hurt Linda to do it, but worded right it can work. You may want to consider taking some more time to think this through if you are still feeling undecided. There is no rush with this.
Good night, Shay. I will be heading home tomorrow and will check in when I can.
Here is the draft of the letter I wrote to Linda. I would appreciate your thoughts/suggestions.
Also - as to your last post - the arguing wasn't mean or even irritated - it was more verbal sparring, and she would usually refuse to engage me. She would say things and I would pick them apart. She would try to explain why I was wrong, and I would do the same. I think I may have done the same thing with you, and you kind of put a stop to that. :] Linda stopped engaging me on those issues, too, but it took a while.
The whole EMDR thing is troubling to me. But everyone makes mistakes - even therapists, right? Shouldn't I give her another chance, or at least try?
The information thing - I don't know if it's too much or not. Probably. But we like each other. She invited me to her husband's concert thing (which was really good) because she knows I appreciate music and he's a good song writer. She keeps saying she wants to come hear me sing and play drums. That's fine, and it might be good for her to actually know who I'm speaking of (C, Jamie, etc. - she's already met P.). But I could see an issue if she formed her own opinions of them. There are things I wish I didn't know - but I asked. On the other hand, I think it's good that she shared some things- so I don't put her on some kind of pedestal, which would be easy to do.
Okay, so here it is:
This is difficult to write, but I think there are some things I need to say and you need to know. I feel like over the past few weeks, there have been a few things that have happened that have really hurt me and, I am realizing, have threatened/jeopardized our therapeutic relationship. I just don't feel as safe as I did, or as trusting. That might not be fair, but it's how I feel. Things have been compounding since we tried the EMDR.
You probably have little clue what I'm talking about. Let me try to explain.
First, as you know, the EMDR went terribly. There was no way you could have known how it would go - it was worth a try. As you also know, my reaction scared the crap out of me. I understand that you didn't know what was going on. And that was fine. I knew I had my hands over my ears - they were still there when I "came back" (for lack of a better description). But then you mentioned in our next session that I had been rocking. After I thought about that later, it really bothered me that you didn't know I was having some serious problems - or at least that something more was going on than me crying hard. I mean, to my knowledge, I have never held my ears and rocked - or at least while I was not having a nightmare. That's certainly never happened during any of our sessions. Why didn't you know?
You promised me a while back, when we were going through some difficult memories, that you would never leave me deep in a bad memory, and you would always bring me out of it. I know you would have if you had known what was going on, but I feel upset that you didn't catch it, like you don't know me or read me as well as I thought you did, after all these sessions. And regardless of the reason, or even if there is no reason, you didn't or couldn't do what you said you would.
Then, last Monday, you mentioned something about the "safe place" thing. I had totally forgotten all about that. We went through it a few months ago, when we were planning to do the EMDR, but you haven't mentioned it since, and we didn't talk about it or practice it before we did the EMDR. When you were reading the "instructions" back then, didn't you say that it was important to make sure to be able to go to the "safe place" easily before even starting EMDR? I know I wasn't able to do that really well when we tried it before, but I think we were supposed to practice it before doing the EMDR? Why didn't we do that? I don't know that it would have made a difference, because things seem to have fallen apart very shortly into it, but I don't understand why that precaution wasn't taken. Also, I didn't feel you warned me enough about the possible negative consequences of the EMDR. I had read a lot about EMDR on the internet, and I think I even told you that I had read where people said that it had had some bad effects and that it was sometimes rough, even if it was working great, for a few weeks. You said that it would probably be tiring and would stir some things up.
When I met with Dr. Krakow (sleep doctor) the first time, he asked if I had gone through any PTSD treatments. I told him what we had done so far, and told him that we planned to do EMDR. He saked me if I understood what I was "getting into." I said yes, because I thought I did, although I thought his wording was strange. It makes more sense now.
Since that happened when we tried the EMDR, I have looked up a bunch more stuff, and there see,s to be story after story of people who are thrown into bad flashbacks and sometimes even experience them over and over for weeks.
I guess I just didn't realize that it could end up so badly. I figure that if you thought that was a possibility, you would have warned me, and I'm not saying you withheld anything. But why didn't you know what might happen?
I was also a little taken aback last Friday before our session, when you said we didn't have to do EMDR that day if I didn't want to. It surprised me that after what happened, you would think there was any chance I would want to do EMDR again that week - or any time in the near future. In fact, I was surprised that it was even an option - that you would allow me to try it again so soon, after what happened.
After our last session, I was upset and hurt. Not so much at first, but more and more that night when I thought about our discussion and your response to my letter (that was the 2nd letter).
I had told you in my letter that I saw you as a "mother figure" - what I considered to be the "ideal," and that I expected you to mother me/take care of me sometimes. I told you this (even though I was not proud of it) for two reasons: (1) because I thought you should know (if you already hadn't figured it out), because I know it is a result of/plays into my childhood parent issues we have discussed; and (2) I wanted to explain why I may have been overly upset when you didn't "rescue" me from what was happening from the EMDR.
You seemed to pull out the physical comfort part of my desire for a maternal figure. That was not at all the point. I tried to tell you that. You started talking about your being trained more on the medical side of things, where touch is not used, and I told you that was probably, actually, a good policy - but that wasn't the point. The point I was trying to make was how I saw you. I was not asking you to be physically affectionate/comforting with me. Maybe my letter was unclear, but I was trying to clarify it with you. But you seemed to ignore that, and continue. You were kind of jumping around a lot, but you were saying that you didn't grow up in a family that did that, that you could do that with your daughters, your mother, and your mother-in-law. You talked about how you were allowed, but generally, didn't touch clients, and then you were saying something about how we should be, as Christians. Then you said that there have been a few times when I was struggling, when you thought about sitting next to me and patting me on the back or something, but didn't.
At the time, I was just a little frustrated and a little embarrassed, because I felt like you felt I was asking you to be all touchy-feely with me or complaining because you weren't. That wasn't the point. Yes, as we have discussed, I lacked physical affection as a child and need to fulfill it, but I can do that elsewhere (Pat, for instance), or can learn to provide it for myself. I didn't expect you to provide it. In fact, I always assumed there are rules about that. But I couldn't get that across. That night, though, thinking about our conversation, it really upset me. You didn't even have to explain any of that, but in doing so (I'm not sure you realize(d) it), you said that, from my childhood, "of course" I needed physical contact 0 that I simply needed it, you were allowed to do that in the therapy setting, but you choose not to with me. This is the exact kind of message I got from my parents - you were directly reinforcing their message that I was not entitled to physical contact (although others were) - and I thought you had said that this was not a good message for me to have gotten when I was younger. That really hurt my feelings - and it was unnecessary, considering that wasn't even the point I was trying to make. It became an issue when you said that stuff, though. It wasn't the issue of physical contact, it is the issue of what you said and how you said it, and it made me feel unworthy and small. I know you did not mean to hurt me and that you would never hurt me on purpose. And I know it had to be difficult to read my letter in front of me and respond right away. But knowing my issues, I would have thought you would have been careful about saying something that is so sensitive to me, especially coming from you, who I had just said was a mother figure. Again, I know you didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but I ended up hurt.
Also, I feel like you don't have a whole lot of desire to keep trying to help me, since the EMDR didn't work. I was surprised that you seemed to have no plan or thoughts about how to proceed, and it was pretty clear there's no urgency now. It's fine that you aren't sure where we are going from here, exactly. I imagine you need some time to think about it. But I felt, in how you were saying things, that you weren't really interested or motivated, since we weren't going to be doing EMDR. Maybe it was just my impression, and I do understand I had been upset since what happened the week before). I don't know. But I feel like you didn't really care so much anymore, and had been counting on the EMDR to take care of things.
Also, at some point, I had said, joking, "I bet you didn't think this would take this long" or something like that. You said that you knew, when you got my intake report, that it would take a long time, and that you knew it was a more difficult case, and that's why you thought they pushed it up to you. Why would my "case" be any more difficult than others? It's not like I have a mental disease or disorder. I would imagine that trauma is a fairly common issue in therapy. What makes my situation more difficult?
I feel like what happened when the EMDR really damaged me and set me back. It was so upsetting and my feelings of shame became so much more powerful. And the voices and the dissociation or whatever it was and getting stuck in the intense flashback were really scary and left me feeling different (not in a good way), and I still feel that was. And the fact that I felt like you left me to fend for myself and didn't help me makes me feel that I was totally without a net and I fell. I felt before that you would protect me no matter what we were doing in therapy, but now I don't feel that way. And the fact that you basically reinforced one of the very painful messages from my parents hurt me. I know you didn't mean it, but it still hurt me - it didn't protect me.
I just don't feel totally safe anymore, and I don't totally trust that you will keep me safe when we're trying to work through things in therapy.
I used to have total confidence and trust - I felt like even if it was difficult, I could know it would be okay. But now I don't feel that way. I feel like my trust has been fractured in some way.
I don't know how to repair that.
I feel alone.
I am torn. I really like you, as you know, and felt comfortable with you almost from the start. I have trusted you since early on. It is really rare for me to feel so comfortable and trusting, and to be able to share everything as I have. And I feel like you have helped me so much. And I have grown very dependent on you, which you know.
I don't want to give up on therapy, especially now - because in the whole "it-will-get-worse-before-it-gets-better" process, I feel like I am still stuck in the "worse" period. And I don't really want to go to someone else, because it is extremely doubtful that I would feel comfortable with someone else and I also don't want to start over. I know if we stio now, I won't go back to therapy.
But I feel really vulnerable. I don't know what to so.
I share these things with you, not because I want to complain or make you feel bad or anything negative. I just am unsure how to continue, and the alternative to telling you how I am feeling about all this is me just going into each session not saying much and just going through the motions, andeventually just not going anymore.
I don't know that I really want to discuss any of this. And I'm not sure how to rebuild the trust/confidence/feeling of safety or if it id possible.
I need to think this through more, of course, and it might feel differently once the fear and some of the aftermath subsides.
I think that meanwhile, we need to take things slowly, and I think I would like to come only every other week for a while.
Also, on a separate note, would it be possible for me to look at my file and your notes? I don't need a copy of them, and you can be there (I probably can't understand a lot of it :] ).
I don't want you to be upset or feel bad or anything. I just needed to let you know what is going on in my mind and what I'm feeling.
Well, it's already Easter in the Eastern time zone, so happy Easter! Do you hide eggs for your son? I am looking forward to dinner with P's family, which is basically my family here. Plus- P's niece os the office manager at my old firm still, and she is so excites I'm coming back. We are good friends and always have a lot to talk about, but it will be fun doing some planning! Plus- P's aunt and uncle (not too much older than P) will be here. They also go to our church. I love them. They are so awesome and her aunt, especially, says exactly what she's thinking, and she's treated me like family for a really long time. In fact, I call them aunt and uncle, and they tell people I'm their niece. Some girl at church was complaining a few years ago about how she should be doing a solo, but C picked me, and he always picks me and I'm his favorite, etc. and was complaining about me. P's aunt was standing in the group to whom she was speaking, and she said, "you don't know who I am, do you?" and this girl said "yeah, you're Gxxxxx." And G said "I'm Shay's aunt." The girl just got silent. I'm sure she was confused because everyone knows I have no family here. But it made me feel really good. And she acts like I am her niece. It's really nice.
Well, better get to bed. It's officially Easter here, too!
I better get some sleep or I'm not going to make it to the sunrise service :]
Have a safe trip!
Your letter is good. I think that Linda can respond to it in two ways. One, she will withdrawal even more from the therapeutic relationship, which is not the best way to go but it's possible, or two, she will use the letter to address some of these issues, which need to be addressed before you can keep working.
Some other impressions:
The EMDR was a pivotal part of your therapeutic experience. It brought up a lot of emotional trauma for you which you counted on Linda responding to. You feel she dropped the ball and went the other way in her response. This is a crack in the trust you put in her.
You are concerned with Linda's investment in your situation and in you. Because of this, the dynamics of the relationship have changed, a lot.
You are hurt and possibly fearful of getting hurt worse. That is the underlying message in your letter. And there is some disappointment too, but that is connected with the hurt.
You may want to leave the file request until later. There is a lot in your letter and it will take a while to process. I know you want to find out more about what is going on, but it may be too much right now and could further affect your therapy and relationship with Linda. This issue needs repaired first.
Keep in mind that trust can be rebuilt, even if it's not with Linda. What happened with her is painful and may slow your progress in recovery, it does not mean you cannot continue with someone else. If Linda is unable to respond well to your feelings, you may need to consider other alternatives in the future, once you recover from this experience.
Happy Easter to you too! I hope your dinner is going well. I did do Easter Baskets with the kids but no eggs this year. It was too hard with the traveling to have time.
Enjoy your day with your family!
I know you feel torn by this decision. Seeing Linda is what you are used to. You have made a connection with her. Going to someone else is risky; it is the unknown.
Being open and honest with your feelings is the best way to get what you need. That does not mean you have to be mean to do it, but your letter is not mean. It is confrontive at times, but not in a bad way. You say many times that you want this to work out and that you don't mean to hurt her feelings. But therapy is ultimately about you. You are paying Linda to give you what you need, just like you pay your doctor to do the same or anyone else you deal with. Therapy is different because there is an emotional element to it but there also needs to be boundaries so if something like this happens, you can make a decision to move on. There were some boundary crossings in your therapy, which might be making this harder.
Your letter is fine and it is not mean. You have questions that need answered. And Linda needs to be responsible for her own feelings about it. That is the job of every therapist so the person they are working with does not need to worry and can focus on getting better.
Therapeutic boundaries are crossed when a therapist discusses more about themselves than needs to be said in therapy. A therapist shares only what is helpful to the person they are working with, and no more. To share more opens up the chance that the wrong kind of transference occurs, which can harm therapy. Does it happen that therapists share more than they are supposed to? Of course. But therapists usually do it by mistake, recognize it and try not to do it again.
It is the therapists job to handle any potential boundary crossing. Just because a client asks does not mean the therapist should answer. That is like saying just because a patient asks for percocet the doctor should give it to them. Therapists have an ethical responsibility to know boundaries and control them so therapy benefits the person. Otherwise, the progress of therapy can come to a halt or slowed considerably.
The therapist is also responsible for knowing when a person tries to cross boundaries and finding out why. There are many reasons a person wants to know more personal information about their therapist and they need explored to help the person grow and gain more insight about themselves.
Arguing with your therapist can also be a sign of an issue. It can be personality, trust, anger or other reasons. The therapist can explore it and find out why so he/she can help the person they are working with. It is not always about responding to the argument, but why the arguing is going on.
You could also make a list and talk to Linda about it. The point is to get your feelings out there and to talk this through. However you feel comfortable doing that is fine. My concern is that you are dealing with this rather than your original issues, which are what you are in therapy for.
You are not rocking the boat, Shay. You are taking care of yourself. And consider the progress you have made so far. It has only been a short time and you have gained a lot of insight and you are very motivated. Emotions can be messy, I agree. But they are a necessary part of your life. You have had little practice dealing with emotions because of how you grew up. And you are in the middle of learning how to cope. So the issue with Linda is not coming at a good time. It's ok to be overwhelmed and frustrated. But this will pass and you will be able to move on, back to what you want to be working on.
So - a client's trying to cross boundaries is like when I asked if Kate was your real name, right? You didn't answer, but rather asked why that was important to me to know, which I guess it really wasn't. But I knew you were just refusing to tell me in a nonconfrontational way. It could have been taken, however, as you being evasive. It didn't bother me after we discussed it a bit. Maybe it made more sense to me because saying something about yourself online is a totally different thing and can be really dangerous.
If I felt like Linda was being evasive with me - about anything - I would react negatively, and trust her less. But if she just said, "I don't talk about myself with my clients," I would be fine with that. But, too, I'm telling you - I'm the kind of person that people feel like sharing personal things with. Even my primary and my neurologist (my old one - I've only seen my new one once), tell me personal things. I've only actually met with Dr. M. twice - the rest has been on the phone. I have the impression that she is pretty good at maintaining boundaries. But in our first meeting, she said "I don't usually ever talk about myself, but ...." Now ,what she told me didn't matter, it was about her daughter playing basketball for UNM (quite impressive, actually), and only because I was talking about playing basketball. But we had a nice conversation about how much different it would be playing Division I basketball (I played Division III), and I don't think it harmed a thing. But it also wasn't necessary to my therapy, and even Dr. M, who seems to maintain strict boundaries, felt okay talking to me about her family, to some extent. So a lot of it is my fault and the way I am (or the way people think I am).
As for "rocking the boat," I don't agree. I mean, my wording may not totally fit, but the fact is that I would feel better right now if I had never started this last summer. I know it will be worth it down the road, but this road is getting longer and longer.
I know I'm spending more time on this issue with Linda right now and not dealing with my original issues. But that's just how it is right now. I can't really just go back in there and everything be fine and work on my original issues. Or can I? Can I just ignore this? Treat it as an anomaly? Let the trust rebuild itself or not? It's not like I have a whole lot more I need to tell her. She already knows pretty much everything, so it's not like I need to trust her right now to tell her anything.
You're right - this came at a bad time, and I am really pissed about it. I don't have the energy to deal with that on top of my other issues, and trying to learn to deal with emotions, and dealing with all the different meds I'm on again and off again, and the headaches and the sleep stuff.
I need to think all of this through.
Asking about my name is XXXXX XXXXX it is my job to find out why it is important to you. Is it about trust? Or is it because you are curious? Either way, my job is to find out if there is a reason behind your asking. If it is a symptom of something, like trust issues, then I can help you work on it.
This is not about being evasive as it is about finding out why you feel you need to know. Trust is an issue since you and I have discussed it. Therapists are there to recognize that you might have a trust issue and help you deal with it. That is why it is important to have ethics and keep the boundaries strict. You can see what is the client's issues and help them work through them.
Boundaries are important so you can focus on you in therapy. Therapy is not about the therapist but about the person in therapy. Nothing else is important. Even if you are good at getting others to talk about themselves, therapists are supposed to be trained to cope with that as part of therapy. It is not up to the person in therapy to figure out what is appropriate or not. It is the therapist's job.
The point here is whether or not you are being harmed and your progress deterred by what is going on in your therapy. And so far, that seems to be affecting your therapy. This is adding stress to your situation. Your therapist's job is to sort this out and guide you through it. But if your therapist is causing the situation by her actions, then your recovery is going to be affected.
You have a choice about whether or not to continue with Linda. Since this is a difficult decision, you may want to get more information before you decide. Seeing her on Thursday will help.
It does matter that you are being hurt. And it does matter that your reasons for being in therapy are being put by the wayside to deal with this issue. That is the important part of what is happening. And the stress you are experiencing because of it. Nightmares would seem more appealing after all this.
I wanted to check in and see how you are doing. You seemed down yesterday and I know you have been feeling overwhelmed by the situation with therapy.
I hope you are alright,
It's easy to understand why you feel so discouraged. There are going to be ups and downs. Right now, you have hit a pretty tough down. But overall, you have been doing very well. You have a lot of insight, which has helped you deal with what happened to you with the attack and during your childhood. You see things much more differently than you did before.
What do you feel is the biggest obstacle for you continuing therapy?
I'm tired of feeling bad. I miss being a happy, "up" person most of the time. I want to get to the point, again, where I don't feel like crying most days.
Right now, my choices are: (1) stay with Linda, don't mention any of the issues you and I have discussed over the last week or 2, and hope that eventually I will regain confidence and trust in her [in which case, that will likely take a while, if it works at all, and will delay my resolving the real issues and feeling better]; (2) I discuss the recent issues and my partial loss of trust/confidence with Linda and hope that not only does she respond well, but that we can work it out [again,that will likely take a while, if it works at all, and will delay my resolving the real issues and feeling better]; (3) I look for a new therapist [in which case, it will take me a while to find one I think I can feel comfortable with, then will take time to become comfortable and to trust [assuming that is what happens]. This will not only seriously delay my feeling better, but will require me to go through the whole thing again with a new person, and maybe even go through several people, having to at least tell them he gist of why I am there; or (4) quit therapy altogether, and restart (or not) later. This option has the potential of making me feel better more quickly, as I rebuild my walls and re-repress my emotions, but also means I either will haveto deal with this again in the future, totally starting from scratch, or that I will never resolve it and will never totally feel as better as I could.
I'm just tired and cranky and feel really bad.
What will Linda do, do you think, if we start discussing these things and I get ramped up and upset and it is directed at her? Also, if I walk out if I get to the boiling point?, is she going to call me and bug me and want to "make up"? Or will she leave me be until I am ready to discuss it with her sometime in the future, if at all?
I'm here. What's going on?
I must have missed you. I will be heading to bed soon so I'll check in first thing tomorrow.
Good night, Shay!
I hope you are doing ok. I'll be here off and on this morning then my usual schedule this afternoon.
Talk to you soon,