I think it is a tough spot with triplets and it often ends up where tow are closer with each other and there is one that can be the odd man out.
you are also in a difficult position as these are your grandchildren but it is clear you and your daughter have different styles. I think what may be more important here is your relationship with your daughter and if this is straining your relationship at all.
I agree with you, but just concerned that putting the opposites together might alienate them more. I thought if she indulged daughter a bit and let her spend time with favourite brother first, it might make her a bit more relaxed aand be less irritable, thus helping her mother deal with all the other normal problems. Why push her
I see that point of letting the natural things take its course, but if she sees it differently then what can you really do?
I have twins by the way...not that it is the same but it can be a little...meaning that when i see they are not getting on, we split them up and give them special time with each parent.
i think that is what you are advocating for in a way.
I suppose so, maybe I see it as a bigger problem than it really is. I am hopeful that by mixing them around regularly in whatever arrangement is probably going to help them to get breaks.
and with 3 there will usually be a better pairing...it is hard for all 3 to blend. think about 3 friends...there is usually a stronger tie between two
You're right. They will probably work it out.
and you are a good grandma....dont forget that piece