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Did dr b come. I would say, no. I do not think he did. Was I right? Of course a part of me wants to think that he is so nice, that knowing he is about to leave for greener pastures, he wondered up to the house just to say hello. But then again...I don't think he did. So, how did I do? Was I right that he did not show?
You know. There was no way to win on this party. Even if it was a "blast" as you desired, someone would have said something about someone or fussed over the tent/house temperature to the point of argument or something...
Look, you did your best and out of love for Kate put out a terrific effort. You got a great swing set built before the party (yeah Rob) and the contractor apparently did a terrific job, and it was all noticed. More: No one got hurt and there wasn't any knock down drag out fights and no one created a permanent embarrassing moment memory. That is a good party.
I know you worry about what people thought and if people heard you swearing and all. But hey. It is your life now. They came and had a clean home, a good party, some conversation and they saw Kate... which was the whole point. Plus it gave you a chance to do a big bash before you get too uncomfortable in the pregnancy via nausea, etc.
Even if you do feel a bit deflated about the party it sounds like you did everything imaginable to make every one happy, from directional signs (ignored) to heated tents. Really, who does that? That is a classy party. And, anyone would be lucky to go. If they didn't like it, well, they're too blame as the whole thing was about a little girl's happiness.
You might be interested to know that my wife was informed that you are not yet nauseated, to which she said she is having a boy. So, there is a woman's intuition for you and a woman's feeling that you may just be more physically compatible for a boy's pregnancy. Now, you do not know Kate my wife. But, she is pretty good at the prediction thing I think.
And, mom saying that you are showing...either you have one heck of a baby on the way or mom is seeing things. Could you be that obvious and showing that quickly? It is possible, but she also has the advantage of knowing that you are pregnant. That alone probably adds perspective to her view of you.
When you go even one week early to the ob/gyn, all they do is make excuses. Been there; seen that. Although it would give them a heart attack to do so, I sometimes wondered if showing up at the halfway point would be a good idea as a first visit! It would get things moving and you would not be as poked and prodded as much, right? (I know, bad idea...but I feel sorry for women who are pregnant. They get what appears to be primitive medicine. You know if men got pregnant we could have all our scans and tests via email. And, birth would be painless and pregnancy just 3 days.)
Liz, you did a great job at the party and I do not have to be there to know that you did. You are a perfectionist to an extent, and what you did sounded awesome. You should be proud that you pulled this all off. Steven
Well, I guess we couldn't really expect dr b to show. And, I agree with you 100%. If he really wanted to come he would have and no man needs a text to recall a place and event that he really wants to go. As far as his honesty, who knows? He can be a little bit on the questionable side sometimes. Was he really bored at Starbucks? I doubt it.
I do have to admit he flirts well.
TMM 1 and 2 no contact? That is surprising. TMM 2 I sort of expected he would fade off, but never tmm1. Perhaps April will be his month...It would be odd if he suddenly and permanently dropped off the face of the earth. Steven
Falling asleep on JA is not as bad as at the wheel of your car. So, although I feel sorry that your reply to me was lost a couple of times; it could be a lot worse considering all the circumstances. I am surprised that you are awake when you drive sometimes, as exhausted as you are when you leave work.
Hopefully dr b was not in cardiac distress, but rather in digestive. And, a really hairy dr b? Well, that could be nice for some ladies who like that sort of thing, but I am guessing that he looked like he had bear fur. And, sucking it in...that is funny. I guess he really does have that male sense of pride that many of us seem to. I find it funny that he was okay with you seeing him get undressed and then sucked in his gut. You must mean something to him, or he is vain, but who knows. I do hope that he is okay.
Eight weeks does seem a bit long for an appointment. Do you have any other options as far as an ob/gyn? Your doctor sounds less than accommodating, and that has to be one of the most important traits, openness and accommodation, in that field of medicine. Ob/gyn's are not that rare but I know many women who once they feel comfortable with one, will tolerate a lot because of the comfort level (or lack thereof) with finding a new one.
Well, I trust my wife. If she says its a boy, I will be it is. That does not mean I cannot vote that it is a girl. Telling your whole family on vacation is a good idea. That allows you to pick the time and place much more carefully. Excited about the vacation? And the baby?
Multiple pregnancies? My wife looked four months pregnant at two when we had our last one. I think that is par for the course. The only one that seemed slow to show was our first. After that she looked pregnant, fast.
Feeling down is pretty common at this stage of pregnancy and you also have been really through it. Post trauma stress such as work, party, family, baby, Kate, house issues and all the rest...that is much bigger than you think. It takes a toll on your emotions and body. Be gentle with yourself. You have been through so much. It is only natural that you will feel this way, and many dwell on the negatives when the stress events conclude. Plus, your body does not respond to stress as well when you are pregnant, and that will cause or elevate the blues too. Try to do a few nice things for yourself. Time locking, where you take five minutes just for you, even behind a closed door, anything like that, is good. You need something to balance all of this out before you go to Disney. Really. Take a second, even now to breathe in through your nose and out of your mouth, evenly, three times gently. You have been under such demands and stress and your body is telling you about it through the depressed feelings. Time to try to take some time and energy for you, even if you do not feel like you can. Steven
Funny wasn't the word I was looking for about your extreme fatigue and driving. That is scary, and I guessed it simply because I wonder if you can see how exhausted you are. No one can keep up the pace and the personal expectations that you do, of yourself. I recall that you drive a ways to work and you often mention that you are like the living dead when you leave...and caffeine only goes so far.
Good to know about dr b. Hopefully he is just experiencing chest pain from the workout. Those pec muscle exercises do make you feel like you have a cardiac condition the next day. And, since he isn't identified by you as a candidate for the next planet of the apes movie, I guess he is in the "hairy but normal" range. I did laugh at your nursing comment about what you have seen compared to most women of ill repute. That made me laugh out loud. I am afraid to know what you have seen. I am sure it is, interesting. I cannot even imagine what you have seen, or better yet, things you wish could get out of your mind, after you saw it.
Based on what you told me happened in the exam room, I really doubt anyone would think you were connected to dr b. It sounded really innocent, especially compared to what you must see on a daily basis with others.
We all do have our work spouses and they see us more than our real ones in most cases. That is a matter of fact I think. But he (dr b) does like you. He says really nice things about you in a very personal way and context. Men do not do that unless they like you. And, no, he does not have to like you sexually to like you.
Somehow I can imagine Dr A buying a pizza and reaping the rewards of "what a nice guy" comments. He didn't want the money because this was about him, not all of you; at least I think so.
Why is it that doctors are always away from the office when you need them? And, you just know that if Kate was born at Christmas that you would have had a Christian obgyn and not a Jewish one. Five kids for this man huh? He must follow that sex after the 14th day thing. That gets a lot of women pregnant on that particular schedule.
Your baby isn't a yoke; it's serious. (sorry, that pun is so bad I deserve punishment.)
Well, I will tell you that the obgyn's who are good surgeons are pretty rare in my view as well. I do know one. Trouble is, he is c section happy. That may just be him and his boat payments, but still...makes a person wonder why the skill set of obgyn and surgical skill seems so divergent. And as to the last thing. Yes, just get you and the baby out okay. That is the goal. Steven
I have seen the pattern of sleeplessness and fatigue in my own wife during these times. All I can say is that it is critical that when you have a second or two to take it for yourself, including any opportunity to catch up on sleep. Naps, cat naps, anything. Now is Rob's time to really pitch in as this is a team effort. There are no solo times when you have this much stress and compressed schedule.
You can't remember the goodies. Well, I could probably tell you that either "A" this is such a normal part of your job that it really does not matter anymore. Like a plumber no longer gets grossed out by what he/she sees in the pipes. Or "B" you are so traumatized that you repress it all. I think I will vote for the professional answer, "A".
This constant messing with staff is so indicative of a place that has too much management and not enough staff. Every day someone has to come up with some new standard to measure something by. And really; the answer is to get rid of management positions, not staff. And, I have to say that growing up and living in a highly unionized environment: There is no way that you should be forced to take a test on your own time. If it is considered a part of the work on the job, or a requirement of it, then it must be done on company time. They can ask you to come in, but they have to do so with extra pay or incentive. I too would take this to the union and frankly: I think the nurses have one heck of a good case. This is lousy management, plain and simple.
I seriously doubt this is about losing workers (nurses). This is about someone saying to a monitoring authority that there are standards and the hospital exceeds them. (Look, we gave a test.)They are not going to use this as a culling mechanism. That may be the talk at the hospital among the nurses, but the reality is that this happens a lot. Although it is difficult to stop, the truth is that as long as the union raises a fuss, it should be alright. I think you can relax on this one.
And yes...dr b does like you. Steven
Okkkaaaayyy....well, that was an interesting conversation with the doctors. And these men who are professionals are led around by their gonads, and can be so distracted about a conversation regarding sex toys that they cannot stay focused? That doesn't say much about their self control or discipline does it? And telling you that they want a heel in their back; I guess that was set up by you, but still. These are men in their 30's? They act like porn addicted 14 year olds. Wow. You should run the place Liz. At least you have perspective and self discipline.
Your conversation with dr a was enlightening. He seems confused and uncertain to a degree about his self value and worth. Do you see that? He knows he has skills and so on, but then talks about them in an odd sort of way, playing himself as low key, which I cannot imagine he is, at all. And, he can't see that others might think he is stuck on himself? Please. that is false modesty at best. I do not buy this, at all. I think you saw a window into his insecurity but I would not plan that it is anything but a small window. It is certainly not a breakthrough. And the comment about who he should have married. What was that about? I still think you should stay away from him.
Dr b cannot stop thinking about a website? Really? Come on. He cannot be that naive. If he is, I worry about him. He has to have been exposed to the world of weird in his work. I was, and I was in psych. Physical medicine is even worse. You see all the odd things. Have they ever been risky in their behavior? Probably, but doctors have an innate conservative bent in many cases that keeps their careers alive. Those who do not, they lose their jobs. I know. Some of those kinky doctors were clients of mine. They had lots of issues from shoe fetishes to serious control issues. As you can guess, kinky does not just stay in the bedroom. It tends to splash into other life areas, like work.
The union situation sounds like a real peach of a problem. This is the issue with places that hire lousy management. They get all into the "problem" without seeing that the problem is them. How on earth can you test for a standard if you do not know what that standard is? And, if there are no steps in place to deal with that standard, then the measurement becomes arbitrary and meaningless. That is why standards mean nothing without predetermined benchmarks.
Hopefully what you are hearing is exaggerated remarks from a rumor mill, as far as firing the whole crew. Then again, your old place was a study in weird. Steven