My 19 year old daughter is in college 2500 miles away and is depressed. She was depressed at home too so she thought going away from home would help. It did
for a while but not long term. She is very outgoing, friendly, makes friends very quickly, guys are always wanting to date her, etc. However, the friends she makes and the guys who want to date her are almost always someone who needs fixing. The friends are usually gay or lesbian, really heavy, emotionally ill, socially awkward, etc. Her sister is a year older and also causes her distress. Her sister is academically gifted, very attractive (although the 19 year old is also attractive,) and the guys who want to date her are "normal." The 19 year old kind of looks down her nose at behaviors I consider normal for people her age-people who are shallow, social climbers, religiously judgmental, etc. About 18 months ago, she met a guy online who was really good for her for a while. She met him through Twitter and then developed a phone relationship which was all consuming. She was madly in love. Having never met him personally, she set up several meetings but he was always unable to meet her. All of her friends warned her that he wasn't who he seemed to be but she became very upset-even severing tires with one of her true "normal" friends (the friendship is now back and good.) Finally, my husband drove her 13 hours to meet the guy-and he was a middle aged man with a wife and kids. She has never spoken of it other than a few texts or emails but they are always very vague. After she left his house, he texted her and said he was at the house but just didn't want to come out. I really think she's hanging on to this hope that he's real.
My daughter has kept in close contact with me through the year and now she wants to talk to someone professional. She saw a counselor in junior high who really helped her but then the counselor moved away. Can you give me guidance to give her through the rest of the semester and then can you tell me who would be best for her to talk to?? I'm not clear on who she should see-a counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist who another I'm unaware of. As an educator, I have had interactions with professionals that I believe do more harm than good. Any help would be appreciated.