Hi, I'm happy to try to help you. I'm sorry your family is going through this. Unfortunately, what the drug rehabs in OK told you is true. If an addict doesn't think they have a problem, and they don't want help, there is nothing much you can do. You can try what is called an intervention, when you and other family members or friends meet with her and all tell how they feel and try to convince her to get help. Her husband enabling her does not help matters. If he were to stop that, give her an ultimatum-possibly say he will leave, that might work. You could report her to the DMV regarding the driving under the influence. You can help yourself by going to Al-Anon, 12 step for family and friends of people who are using.