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I cant believe Im doing this. I am feeling overwhelmed with life. I seem to

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I can't believe I'm doing this. I am feeling overwhelmed with life. I seem to have lost my ability to cope with things. I've alway sheen pretty level headed and functioned at a pretty decent level, but something has happened to me. I literally feel like I am losing my mind. I am on anti-depressants and I am in counseling. Still I feel like I cannot meet the demands of life anymore. There are so many people around me that have so much more going on in their lives, and they seem to cope just fine. What is wrong with me? What has happened to me?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC replied 2 years ago.

Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.

 

When did your symptoms start? Did something change in your life recently such as a death, job loss or traumatic event?

 

Do you feel your counseling is helping? What did your counselor diagnose you with?

 

Thank you,
Kate

Customer: replied 2 years ago.
It's been going on for a while now. The time between these particular episodes gets less and less. A simple and fairly reasonable question can set these feelings in motion. I used to handle things so well, but something has happened; I can't seem to deal with anything anymore. I'm so afraid I am going to have a nervous breakdown. It's hard to keep pretending like everything is OK when on the inside you feel like a volcano that's about to erupt. Nothing has changed recently, but I have been trying to address some childhood sexual abuse and a couple of issues that my counselor says I have as a result of that. My counselor hasn't really diagnosed me with a particular thing. He is just trying to help me modify some behavior.
Expert:  Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC replied 2 years ago.

Thank you for the additional information.

 

It sounds like the feelings from your childhood sexual abuse are affecting you. You mentioned feeling afraid of a nervous breakdown and also that you find it hard to cope with anything. Both of these feelings signal that you are overwhelmed right now.

 

I want to reassure you that you will not have a nervous breakdown. Having a nervous breakdown is a term that is used in general and is not an official diagnosis. You will not lose control or be unable to function. What you may be experiencing is anxiety, possibly related to the feelings you are bringing up about your past.

 

People who have been abused as children often develop Post Traumatic Stress or another anxiety related disorder. It comes from the trauma you went through. Most survivors are able to function well enough, but one day they find they begin to feel like they can't hold it together anymore. This usually happens when they are reminded somehow of the trauma. And since the trauma happened so long ago, the connection between how you feel now and your past is not easy to make. So you feel that you are losing it and are unable to cope.

 

You mentioned feeling like a volcano ready to erupt. This is your feelings coming out from what happened to you. Modifying your behavior in therapy is helpful, but the deeper issues still need addressed. By confronting what you went through and letting your feelings out in a safe and secure environment, you can work through your pain and feel whole.

 

Do you feel your therapy is helping you? If so, then you can talk with your therapist about this and get his assistance in working it through. But if therapy is not helping, you might need to try another therapist. You can find one through your doctor or by searching on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.

 

You can also help yourself through learning more about being a survivor of abuse and how it can affect you. Here are some resources to help:

 

http://www.ascasupport.org/

 

http://www.psychotherapist.net/adultsurvivors.html

 

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan B. Allender

 

Hush: Moving From Silence to Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse by Nicole Braddock Bromley

 

You may also want to consider support groups, either on line or in person. Getting support from others who feel as you do can make a big difference.

 

I know you feel overwhelmed. It is not easy to feel that you are losing control. But I can assure you that you are not. With some help and support you will get through this and feel better soon.

 

I hope this has helped you,
Kate

Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC, Therapist
Category: Mental Health
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Experience: Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
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