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Thank you for your question. Please tell me more about what you are angry about. What is your expectation of being in the relationship
I am angry that they don't want to grow up and just have only me be the responsible one... like working and taking care of the kids. I just want a partnership and help without having to be asked and just have the respect towards me that I give him.
Who is "they"? Please tell me more about this relationship you are speaking about
Just every relationship I have been in... I have been engaged 2 times but I always find a reason to break up with them because I lose respect and can't forgive them
There is a theory in psychology that humans have a pattern of relating to people. What is your relationship with your parents like?
My mother left when I was 5 and my father never had a steady relationship but we were very close until he died when I was 16 then I was in foster care
I see...what is your fear when you becoming emotionally intimate with your partner?
That I will eventually be alone
But a fear of being close to someone is fulfilling this...don't you think?
Not if they are just there and its like I am alone anyways
In my opinion, the anger you have is really towards your mother who left at 5 and the father you lost at 16. You may be displacing your unresolved feelings towards your parents on these relationships. Have you considered attending therapy?
I think I need to
That would be my suggestion. I appreciate your openess on this forum and I believe your insight and motivation will help you overcome these feelings.
Another suggestion I have for you is to find a therapist or psychologist who takes a psychodynamic perspective in therapy.
When looking contacting a therapist, you can ask what their theoretical orientation
Thank you for listening... I really need to get thru this
not a problem. Do you have any further questions?
will I need a different therapist for self esteem and eating disorder?
No...a good therapist would be able to help you with self-esteem and eating disorder as I believe your early attachment issues is related to your self-esteem and eating disorder.
Any other questions?
If not, I wish you all the best. Please consider pressing the "accept" button if you found me helpful.
No thank you