It's not my son, it's my stepson. I was granted visitation 10 days per month by the psychiatrist who admitted the mom is abusive. The judge agreed with the pyschiatrist recommendation and granted visitation (no overnights).
To have him see an expert, I have to go back to the courts, which is problematic on many fronts.
My stepson has cut himself four times, (twice with the cat, twice with his mothers razor - shaved his head while in the shower). Once Child Welfare Services visited his school when his teachers called. He had 100 cuts on him from his cat. They said it was not abuse.
My stepson isolates himself from schoolmates during the day at school.
He has a younger sister too who's been emotionally abused. She almost murdered him last summer when she picked up a gun and put it to her brothers head, but didn't pull the trigger.
The mothers brother in 1983 tried to inject her with lighter fluid at 2 am, then the abusive mother drove her sister to a suicide attempt.
So I am told I get an "A" as a parent from the kids because I'm nice.
Please provide reference material (books/support groups) where I can research further how to parent a child while they are being abused.