Thank you for your question. Before providing suggestions, I have a few questions. First, what was your relationship like with your son? When did it first start deteriorating?
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After he found out about his biological father, what happened to your son?
So what happened? How did your son become angry at you?
him as in the father of your son?
What did he do to turn your son?
How long has it been since you saw your son?
Yes, I'm having technical difficulties as well
I completely understand
when was the last time you saw your son?
she finds you son having a problem?
At this point, do you feel your son's safety is in danger?
do you think he has a problem now?
Yes, I understand that...you also want him to be safe as well
however, since he is 20 years old, there is a time for him to understand the consequences of his actions
yes, I understand...my suggestion for you is to write a letter to him discussing your current concerns about his current behaviors.
Write a draft letter first as you have a way for words and continue to edit the letter until your point comes across
At this point, your son's life is not in danger. Yes, you have mentioned concerns about his behaviors and he may not see the consequences of his behaviors
have you considered going to individual therapy?
you current issues is very complex to sort out through this forum. I will however give you suggestions on how to resume communication with your son, but I feel your situation is really complex for me to answer through this forum
Instead of writing how much you miss your son, talk about your concerns of his behaviors.
He knows you will support him no matter what he does.
It may be time for some tough love
there are no consequences for his behaviors
I encourage you no to text him constantly as you are doing since this will drive him away
I encourage you instead to write down your concerns in a form of a letter
edit it so that it shows your concerns...not how much you miss him
although I know you do miss him
he already knows that
No, write a draft letter of your concerns for your son. Edit the letter as much as you can. If he continues to ignore you, send the letter to him and see if he responds
give him some space...he is trying to figure things out...as scary as this sounds...if he is in harms danger, he will seek out the help he needs
Yes, texting will drive him away
I hope you found me helpful
You don't have to...I think you still can write the draft letter while you wait. If you don't hear back from her when you are done, give him the letter.