For the reward chart if she has been good all evening she gets a sticker on the chart before she goes up to bed - this is with the promise that she will be good going to bed. If she isn't she loses the sticker. When she gets 10 stickers she gets a 'prize'. This eve she started pulling off her sheet and throwing pillow/duvet on the ground. I told her to stop and started putting it back she kept pulling it off so I said ok no more stories if you are not going to lie down and I'm going downstairs... thats when she really kicked off.... screaming, kicking etc. I walked away and came downstairs my husband went up and she was throwing clothes on the ground and taken matress off her bed.
could i please continue? I apologise for relisting the question - it was my first time to use the site and also it was close to midnight here so was heading off to bed. Also could i give some additional info that may be of use.... she is the oldest child of 3. There is a baby 3.5 months. The behavior started when he was about 6 weeks. She is very good with him and shows no real signs of jealously but there could be a link. Also she was using a pacifier which we stopped not long before the change in her behaviour. prior to this she was really very good. Many thanks and again sorry!