It seems to me that she may be struggling with some things on her own now and you seem to be getting the brunt of things...it's always Mom's fault isn't it? Said with a smile since I am one.
Maybe instead of trying to prove to her what a great mother you were and are,try to sit down with her when you are together next to hear what she has to say and maybe go through it all with her. you are correct that even if the situation was not like this her perception is. So maybe just trying to hear her and let her feel you are open to hearing it
are you with me colette?
yes. I will try that next time...even if I don't agree with her I will listen to her side and
what else can I do....you are right there are issues she has to address inside herself and
I am her dumping grounds..her safe place to vent...
yes you dont need to have the same feelings about it but clearly she is going through something and for whatever reason doesnt have the ability to ok inward but rather toward you as a source for her to fel better
yes exactly. you and I are on the same page.
I dont suggest that you need to be her dumping ground forever or to be disrespectful to you but to allow her ht espace to talk with you in an appropriate manner to air her feelings
sorry for my typos
my brain working faster than my fingers
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