my daughter is 31 lives in london England and has for the past 7 years. I live in Canada
and we see one another every year for a couple of weeks and I call her every sunday.
she would rather live here but no jobs in her particular field. She has done well
in her chosen career and for that I am very grateful.
so whats the problem. Well she revisits time and again the few things I failed to do as
a parent ie. not going to basketball games, and I don't know what else. Her favourite
phrase towards me is "You don't listen" I think she has said that a million times.
In other words she doesn't hold me up in high regard at all. I on the other hand
nourished her well . I stayed home with her for the first five years. Cooked
from scratch, put her into music and sewing and provided for her a warm
and comfortable home. But all I hear from her is what a rotten mother I was. What
concerns me most is the negative thoughts swirling in her head. Even if I didn't treat
her poorly as she suggests she thinks I did
and that is my concern what will
all these negative feelings ultimately do to her.
My younger daughter on the other hand tells me I was a great mom and a super
role model as I went on after they started school to college and I opened my
own business which was very sucessful and I sold it a few years ago now
for a healthy profit.
So what to make of this situation and how to remedy it ...please advise because
I am at a loss. I had no bad feelings towardsmy own mother and I had
it a lot harder than my oldest daughter so I am not sure what to make of