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Exactly - you don't want to seem too eager/anxious just interested and receptive. The wheels are turning for you!
You may see your time as being alone as a period for self regeneration, self care and relaxation (peaceful activities) It is what you think about the time alone that evokes the feelings of anxiety. Rather than thinking anxiety provoking thoughts, you may turn these into exciting ones. Ex: think about what to wear on the date, what you may want to talk about or ask him, if you want to get a new outfit or do your nails, etc. Anything rewarding that comes to mind. You can also try to find out about this place of meeting- what kind of atmosphere does it offer, what menu, etc.
When you feel anxious, place your mind onto your breathing to use deep abdominal breaths. The mind responds to both positive mental inductions as well as to calming physiological changes. You can even light a scented candle and play relaxing music that you like, or take a bath. Anything that has helped you in the past to calm down. This is your time to enjoy not stress over.
Yes, i am thinking of what to wear. The resturant is a family place nothing cozy or romantic at all. It is nothing to write home about... I don't think any food will be involved. They have desserts but I don't really think that would be good...I guess it's just having coffee and conversation. I am easy going enough and out going. Some times I am a little shy when I first meet someone. I will be on time.
I would like to check out his profile again but he has the super profike package and can tell every thing I am doing of I go online...if i viewed him, what time, how long I have been online. I am staying off that for now.
Oh, the super package hey? I've never even heard of that. Just don't Check too much so it does not seem like you're anxious. Let him be the one to pursue you.
Coffee and a chat sounds casual and relaxing. That is way better than a bar.