The problem is that my husband is Pro Se and does not have an Attorney representing him. We have sought advice of a "Just Answer" Legal expert who has been extremely helpful. We have utilized my six years of experience in dealing with my legal mess to write motions etc...I think this is why she continues to hire Attorneys in hopes that they will trip up my husband. The funny thing is it appears that my husband is more competent than her attorneys. Even more interesting is that she is a Family Law Attorney herself!
I totally agree with you about exerting pressure and stress. He is backing her up against a wall where she will either be forced to go to court and possibly be ordered to have a psychiatric evaluation or as you stated could change course drastically and settle with my husband by allowing him to be the Residential Parent.
Thank you so much for your advice. It appears we are on the right course which keeps us motivated.