I've been in a relationship for 7 yrs..we are both 56 yrs old. He is going to the orient and has been very open about getting a "happy ending" while there and that I am free to have sex with anyone I want as long as I use a condom. he is very aware how this has upset me. I'm really wondering if I can continue this relationship. Am i over thinking this?
I can see why this idea of his would be extremely upsetting to you, especially since you have been in a long-term relationship with this man. Essentially he is insisting on having an "open" relationship while he is away, correct?
While there is nothing inherently wrong about an open relationship, the key to it's working is that both parties must agree (and hopefully be equally committed to that prospect). When one party doesn't want that arrangement, a decision must be made. Would you want to stay with him even though he was able to go against your wishes and knew that it hurt you?
I'm sorry - I truly wish you the best of luck.