through this and a few times taken him to the emergency room. Unknowing to us at times he would detox on his own. We, his family and his friends to not know how to deal with his disease Manic depression with alcolism. What do we do when he goes on these BINGES? How do we keep him safe? ~Marianne
I am sorry about your son's troubles. I can't even imagine how hard this is for you. I think you have been right about detoxing him. He drinks so much that he can have delirium tremors if he detoxed on his own. I think your son needs to see a dual diagnosis specialist. A dual diagnosis therapist is a therapist who specializes in mental illness and drugs and alcohol treatment. He will need to stay on his bi-polar medication and also attend a program. I think the best thing you can do is to find a therapist who does interventions in your community. An intervention has a specialist get together with members of your family to talk to him about the help he needs. Many residential treatment programs offer interventions. I would start by helping yourself by attending your local Al-anon groups. Al-anon is a self-help group for parents and family of alcoholics. The best thing you can do as a parent is to stop rescuing him. I know is painful but he will have to hit bottom and realize he needs help. The positive thing I see is that he tries recovery and I imagine he has some tools from the programs he attended. He needs to not give up recovery takes a long time. First I would recommend that he sees a doctor and a therapist. Your son will probably need to go on a detox program again.
I did go to a few al-anon meetings. I could not relate since their love ones were on drugs. Since only a few attended, the church meeting closed. The only other meetings are in a bad area in the evenings.
He does have a psychiatrist/PA to which he was attending on a regular basis. When he went back to work they put him on a monthly schedule. That gave him too much time in between. When I got word he was drinking on the weekends, I called his psychiatrist and asked him to see him. He did call him and saw him last Thursday. Well again, this weekend, he was drinking and took off work. When he does drink, he does it alone. He will not answer his phone. Only through text from his friends, do I find out he is drinking. I've driven out there (an hr away) to take his keys and he would tell me to go away. He is like a whole different person when he is not well.
I understand rock bottom, but his would be death!
Intervention is a good idea, however they want thousands of dollars. We don't have the money. Also, it was recommended by his psychiatrist for him to go back into rehab when he was already off the alcohol for a week. From what I was told, rehabs do not take you if you are not going through immediate detox. Is this true?
I typed in Residential Treatment Centers in his area and they show quite a few sites. I am going to print this out and call everyone of them to see if there can be an intervention without the costly fee.
When you say let him hit rock bottom, does that mean do not do anything? Just wait? It scares me since he lives alone and will not what might happen to him. He may go out and try to drive.
He is very independent. He makes very good money so has never asked for any. He never asks for ANYTHING never did. He just wants to be left alone. There was a time where he must of had a very small seizure and called me early morning. I then called an ambulance for him and he was released from hospital within hours. Like I said rock bottom for him will be a stroke or death.
I will type in social detox. Thanks
I thought the same thing, it might be a good thing for him to loose his job. The problem would be he would not have insurance to pay for his medicines for his mental illness, psychiatrist and recovery if he should ask for it.
We will continue to convince him to ask for help.
Have a good evening :)