Thank you for waiting.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through.
It sounds like your husband of 8 years had an affair with a young woman.
You also found he was watching porn several times.
You stated he may have got this woman pregnant. I can imagine how sad
this situation must have been to you. I understand you don't feel the same about your husband, yourself, and marriage after finding all about his action.
He still wants to get back together with you.
It sounds like he still loves you.
However, he already broke your trust.
As you are concerned, he may have an affair with someone again unless he acknowledges he has A PROBLEM - like depression, anxiety
, sexual addiction etc...
Perhaps, you may need assurance from him that he won't cheat on you again and won't hurt you again.
What do you think?
Do you still want to find a way to forgive and save your marriage regardless of his past action?
Possibly, he has a problem to work on.
I would advise him (or you and him) to work with a psychotherapist to resolve his issues for a few months.
In the meantime, you may also need support from a psychotherapist to handle this problem in your marriage or your husband, and make a decision about your marriage over time.
I hope you stay strong and maintain hope, and continue to get support from the people you trust - family, friends and your therapist.
Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any. Warm regards,