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The vacation sounds awesome and well needed. Unfortunately, we have some hurdles to complete before we can afford the time and cost of the vacation. I think planning it and setting our minds to it will give us something fun to look forward to once we meet our immediate goals. We had a good conversation after we both read your answer. We think by setting an actual schedule where we deal with our ex-spouse/legal crap, will help alleviate the 24 hour drain and allow us to enjoy time together with out the ex's interfering. My husband is a real romantic, and contantly discussing the ex's is a major downer for him even though he knows taking care of the business at hand is necessary. We do have a long weekend planned in March, and I think making it a bit spicey with no mention of the ex's or his work is just what he needs.
After your feedback, we realized we are farther along than we originally thought. He told me he wants to send his ex an e-mail asking if she will submit to a psychological evaluation with a clinical psychologist as long as he does the same. He also wants to tell her that he believe's their daughter needs counseling. I assume she will refuse and come back at him saying he's the crazy one. That's what she does. Is that Projection? Is this the right thing to do or will it make her go off the deep end? Does he really need a diagnosis or can he accomplish what he needs to just by understanding her probable personality disorder?
I really appreciate your help. I do have a very good family clinical psychologist who has helped my children and I a great deal; however, he is very expensive and is the therapist on record for my divorce case. Your straight forward answers and expert advice is welcomed by both my husband and me.