After a 7 month breakup we desided to try again. But there where rules for me that I had to follow one was stay home more often when he was home, sex twice a week which I have keep to but just recently I had a hysterectomy done and bladder taping to which I have some problems they are correcting themself and I no longer have as much pain but will have to have a resurgery to remove a cyct they found. We have spent alot of time together but no real connection or communication. When we got into the fight it started with the alrm clock and moved to the affair agXXXXX XXXXXke any disagreement tends to do. Just can't seem to stop the round and round. The afair doesn't seem to bother him any more and plays no part in his life. But if I do look at his phone or computer if he happens to leave it open he tells me he know and to stop it. It's not rquired he's a good boy and doesn't need to be checked up on. He'll let me know if somethings not right. Or just mentioned the fact I looked at his phone and leaves it at that. We have booked 10 days in Mexico with the kids at the end of March well the way I'm feeling only one of us should join them but then it is our last big family holiday now that Justins going to graduate from high school and either go to collage or working and won't have the same time off as Chelsie. Chelsie is hating me and wished I would of just left it alone 3 years ago because now it's harder for her to live it all agian. I have just answered that I wanted to try and see if we could pull it together but she feels I've deceved her for the last 3 years. I guess I did but I was hoping it would all just go away and that I could forgive and forget but I just can't seem to do that. Any argument we have it seem to go back to the affair. and all James say's I'm sorry I can't take it back but you have to get over it.