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I think you are right to limit his access to his son at this time. It sounds, from your description as if his alcoholism may have increased significantly. He may be a "functioning" alcoholic who can still hold a job, but it's affecting all the other areas of his life.
Until his behavior improves, continue to limit contact with your son. In the meantime, I'd recommend that you look into finding an al-anon family group meeting--for those affected by someone else's drinking. You will find support dealing with his attempts at manipulation, and help learning how to set firm boundaries about acceptable behavior with him. Even though you're not living with him, you'll be forced to interact with him concerning your son. Alcoholism brings chaos into the lives of the family and friends of the drinker. Al-anon will teach you how to detach with love, and keep safe boundaries for you and your son until he eventually hits bottom and decides to get sober. Here's a link to al-anon in the UK: www.al-anonuk.org.uk