A blended family is very difficult in the best of circumstances. One issue that is quite common is assuming that you will love them like your own. Some people just can't reach that goal and certainly not after only a short time. That is something that happens over a very long period of time. You don't have the feelings for them that you would have with a child of your own. It is unrealistic to think that you will. You will have a different feeling for them which will eventually possibly grow into something else. Because step parents want to have these feelings so quickly they try to make these huge strides in finding a loving family. But it has to be cone in baby steps. Have bonding experiences that result in positive interactions but don't try so hard. Your partner should understand that this is a gradual process. You will have time to develop into your as step mom.
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