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If you have a partner that isn't talking then examine the way you are communicating about this issue and see if that can be improved upon. There are lots of guides to improving communication. The Mars and Venus series is excellent. If your approach changes you might get further than you have recently. There are also marriage workshops and other options in any area. When you resolve some of the issue you can probably increase your ability to concentrate. I know she has said counseling is not a priority until she is working but find out why. If it's cost find someone who works on a fee sliding scale in your area. If you got her to counseling things may improve dramatically. Also see if she has suggestions for improving this situation. If your solution is based on cost you may also try your clergy. If she isn't willing to do anything then that tells you that she doesn't want to resolve the problems.
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