Here is the web address for Psychology Today's therapist directory. You can sort by zip codes and when you see someone who seems like they might be helpful (they show you a photo of the therapist!) look at the listing and see if they list family therapy as a main thing they do in the areas they work with. Interview the therapist and make sure his/her values are similar to you and you feel confident and comfortable with him/her. http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/
Good Therapy is a non profit directory. Same idea as the one above:
So, the botXXXXX XXXXXne is that you're right, it's awful and your son's being despicable. And you're not going to get anywhere near what you want in the short term. Meaning, he's not going to let you have a relationship with him unless it's on his terms. And his terms are that you have to be totally miserable, humiliated, and groveling. He has her to make sure of that.
So, you have to start telling him no. You don't want to take his offer. You need to let him spin off on his own and offer to visit together with him without her at a restaurant sometimes or at a park. Making rules with him will not win points in the short term, but it's long overdue and has the only hope long term.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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