Thank you for contacting Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about what is happening.How often does this happen that he says this other woman's name when you are having sex?
When you are having sex and he says the other woman's name what do you say or do at that very moment that he is saying her name when you are having sex?
How do you know that he is not cheating with her? How do you know this?
I see that you are offline. I'll pause here and await your response to see what you have added to this chat so that I will be in a better position to help you.If you have other questions, don't hesitate to ask. Just put Dr. Shirley Schaye before your response and I will be the one to respond.
I will say this though before you respond back to get you started on thinking about how to handle this in a better way. Since he denies that he says her name I think you should the moment he utters her name just pull away from him and confront him right at the moment he is saying her name.
I don't have to say this but it is totally non-acceptable for him to be having sex with you and saying another woman's name when that is something that you don't approve of.
His denying that he says her name must make it infuriating to you.
Dr Shirley Schaye
my mind wants to know if he is just wasting my time
I have pushed him away and he says Iam crazy thinking that
I have to go now hopefully you can give me some help or advice
It's hard to give advice because obviously, it depends on the person. I could tell you what I personally would do but that doesn't mean that you would do what I would do --- by that I mean that we are two different people and each person decides for themselves what is acceptable to them or not. Cha'qun a son gout --- everyone to their own taste.
So let's start with you putting into words your feelings about this.
So that my response to you is based on your wishes not mine --- so your thoughts and feelings.
I'll await your response on that and then respond.
He has never done anything wrong to me and wil do anything I ask so I dont understand
deep down I think he must have something for her but why dont he go with her I feel she has feeling for him they know each other for years she is pretty and we see her every week
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I agree with the previous expert. You don't know that he is cheating and you may be projecting your own fears onto him. It is true that someone should be hurt if the wrong woman's name comes out during or before sex but you can't immediately jump to a conclusion like he is cheating. Ask him why this could possibly have happened and evaluate his response. Then it is up to you whether you want to end it. He should be able to tell you why this may have occurred.
If you think he is cheating than that seems possibly to have more to do with insecurities regarding this relationship and maybe insecurities that you are having. You say she is pretty. That may mean that you are feeling insecure. There is nothing wrong with facing him and asking hard questions but you can't assume anything.
If he is denying everything then you have the right to make a decision. If a relationship doesn't have a firm foundation it will not last anyway. Base your decision on the response you get. If you feel this is stuck in your mind than maybe this isn't the relationship for you.