If your daughter is not complaining and is happy with her husband, i do not think it would be wise to interfere.
people can be annoying at times, but you need to have a healty conversation with your son-in law when your daughter is around.
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I think that would be most productive in sitting and sorting out your differences.
Sorry about the late reply. I was away from my computer.
If the family is happy including your daughter and children, I see no reason to "stir the pot" if you will. I believe that this will only cause conflict between you and the family.
Perhaps your daughter wants to have the feeling of taking care of the family or being the provider. Maybe she has purpose in life functioning in this capacity.
If everything is well, I say just leave it alone and let the family be happy.
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From an outsider perspective the things that are concerning are his back pain-there is no reason to have chronic back pain at his age. This needs to be evaluated by a medical doctor.
It sounds like everything else is really just things that you don't like about him and that is fine. You are not going to like everyone.
Your daughter is going to defend him if you tell her. If you tell her these things, she will defend him and it will create conflict between the two of you.
I can absolutely relate to your disdain for this man. It sounds as if he is not an ideal husband.
However, if your daughter and grandchildren are truly happy then its best not to cause conflict.
Perhaps simply discussing these issues with a therapist (if you have one or if not you could search for one) and venting would help you.
I will refer you now.
I would appreciate an accept so I am compensated for time and expertise though.
I recategorized your question.
Please don't reply as it will just come back to me.
For some reason, this question is not being re categorized to mental health.
Would you like to continue with me or wait?