Hi, this is Dr. Colby. Could you give me a little more information, like examples of each? In what worts of situations, if any, do you like being either way of being?
Ok. Well, this does sound like a problem with setting personal boundaries. It's something we all face (and it changes over the months and years and sometimes day-to-day, and different with different people).I sounds like it is pretty troubling to you, however. Have you even had a counselor or therapist or been in a group therapy situation where you can get feedback from others with a facilitator there to guide the interactions?
Hmm. That sounds either like an MD or an ARNP; correct? Have you seen a psychologist, as opposed to a counselor or social worker?
OK. Well, what I suggest is that you see if there is a counseling center connected to your college, even if it is a community college. Absent that, there should be a public mental health center of some kind in your area, too. In either place, you are likely to find a qualified therapist who can work with you in teaching you some techniques to clarify who you want to be and when you want to be that person. The kinds of changes you have described are not unusual, but they are no less unnerving to the person going through them. Start with those kinds of places, first. If those ideas fail, then you might need to get a little more creative. Without regard to religiosity, there may be pastoral counseling centers around, and they frequently have qualified and licensed counselors connected with themYour college student services folks should have some pretty good ideas about what kinds of resources are in your community (or college), too.If this information/answer is acceptable, please indicate such by hitting the "accept" button. If not, or if you want more info, either send me more information to help me see the issue more clearly or even ask that I "opt out" so that you can get information from a different expert. Whichever you choose, we want you to be satisfied with the information and answers you get.
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