Hi Dr. Micheal I laughed yesterday when I read your post. But emotional eating causes a lot of people to gain weight. Plus what is a twizzler's? It's high fructose nonsense....and I devored the red kind. :)
So my husband moved all his stuff out today. Ironically I had text'd him my thoughts corresponding to your first and second options. I rented a Mint Car to see the Marine last night, and will use that for now. My husband fed me some bullshit story about how he is attached to the car, he can only pay me $275 at the beginning and end of the month, and maybe he'll buy me a car in the future. Plus I had to switch all the bills in my name.
I sat there shocked and rationally thought about my options. I decided...if he can't keep our original bargain it show's he's unpredictable, and he'll prob string me along with excuses. He said his "pride" wouldn't let him ask his parents for money, but they dished out $7k for a immigration lawyer and support him now. I had him take everything he owned and he left. He was pissed! It was soo dramatic. He wouldn't tell me where he'd been staying this past week either. Whatever, it's not like I've been celibate. I have an appointment at 5:15pm Friday to speak with a Divorce lawyer about an immediate annulment. Yay, freedom is near!
Yesterday my father called me and I was in tears. He said he's at the end of his life and made me promise to see him Saturday. I hinted things weren't going well with me and Nik (husband), but did not elaborate. Should I tell him? He's dying but he warned me not to marry Nik unless he had papers. He raved about Nik's smooth jazz albumn and they bonded while piano playing. Should I avoid upsetting him?
Ok so Jon is actively pursuing me now. He's calling me more. But c'mon he's 41! He's also incredibly smart and he listens like a hawk. But I'm already sleeping
with "a sniper" haha. Oh, and did I mention I canceled a date Sat with an Irish suitor? My book said to date three at a time. Yesterday I drove to NH and saw the Marine again. He is coming to sleep over this weekend. There will be an abundance of Jaime Oliver meals, and he'll accompany me on my wild girls night. But I'm scared, I have to talk to him about my needs.
They are: Can u please call me more, you used to text me 3x per day.
Need to know if he's in it to win it...should I mention my other suitors? Yikes!
Can u plan a awesome Valentines day with yoga and deep tissue massages
Can u actively plan and ask me out on dates, or else I'm gonna get bored.
I'm starting to feel off balance b/c my brain is hooked on oxcytocin from sex, can we slow things down so I can think rationally?...No? Ok my impulsive mind is fine with that! Lol
It all seems so bothersome. Should I say all that?! How is he going to react? I'm gonna need lots of drinks to have this conversation. Both our profiles are active on the same dating site. I can see when he logs in and vise-versa. I need to relax and be mysterious...how the heck do I do that? All this rational thinking seems like scheming and
planning his head would probably explode if he knew how crazy I am. Is that self-defeating?
So let's balance the scales....ex husband vs annulment (problem solved). No car vs Mint car, walking and bicycle (problem solved). Dating Marine vs dating Jon and Irish Sean (problem solved?). Sleeping with Marine while dating other guys = scandalous? Using taxes to book vacation to Australia, and buy new tv = problem solved soon. Figuring out how to be high maintenance/hard to get vs writing my own guide = clash of the titans. Problem unsolved. New computer monitor so you can finally read my guide= problem solved soon.
Thank you so much for helping me!