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So you want to either sleep all day or work out till you drop. You long for female companionship but find that most woman make you want to scream. You would like to cry but realize that compared to your parents existence yours is nothing to weep over. It is like trying to play solitaire with a deck of 51. Your life is not coming together but it is tearing apart. I can remember exactly such feelings when I was getting close to the end of my teenage years.
Do you have some career goals or personal goals in mind? Usually having such goals will help immensely with the turbulent emotions this time in your life brings. Having been rejected from a college you wanted to go to, having a girlfriend break up with you (or when I was 18 having a low draft number) all can create these feelings. It is a desire to have more control over your life and the desire to be appreciated affectionately by a woman you are attracted to which is not happening that causes this type of transatory depression.
To remedy this situation you need to set some realistic goals for yourself. This will give you more of a sense of control of your life and reduce your emotional mood swings.
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OK so here is the next step. If it is more than just being an adolescent and it is not a lack of goals. Your counselors don't understand you nor is their empathy reaching you. You try to grasp and solve your problems but you feel like your solutions only hurt other people. You have not mentioned any particular cause for this state of mind which led me to believe it was a phase of life problem that has to do with issues of autonomy and independence.
Yet you present me with a more paranoid strain of thought when you state that others are trying to "drive you insane" and you feel all alone in the world. You feel others reject you and in turn you hate yourself. Your desires for things quickly fades and you have become jaded. You even find yourself stealing from yur friends and then telling them, knowing they will reject you for it.
So this then moves to some other diagnoses. If it has been six months or less then it is an adjustment disorder. If it is linger and you have been arrested as a teen then it is a antisocial personality disorder. ASPD is described by the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, fourth edition (DSM-IV-TR), as an Axis II personality disorder characterized by "...a pervasive pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others that begins in childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood. It may also be an identity disorder which has more to do with not having a clear idea of who you really are.
Your school counselor is clearly over his head and I would walk out on anyone who tells me to end a relationship. That is MY decision not HIS! You need some consistent help from an experienced therapist. All psychologists are required to see a few patients pro bono (free of charge.) When I had a private practice I never turned patients away. Keep looking and you can find someone. Try the local Psychological Association.
Here are some free online therapy sites for adolescents:
recoveryourlife.com dailystrength.org boystown.org befrienders.org samaritans.org eftuniverse.com eftmastersworldwide.com