Was your question answered by another expert? It is not on the question list so either another expert has answered or the moderator timed it out. I would be glad to review it and any other information you have that pertains to your question. If the letter you have is a separate question list it as one and it can be handled separately. I have had 30 years of experience with the criminally insane and know a lot about "adult bullies."
I see you are standing by so I will wait for you reply.
I just sent the actual letter in the question option of the site so please read it for more specifics.
Dr. Kappler, did my letter make it through?
I have the feeling there is a problem of some sort as I have not received a response.
Examples to show regarding the manipulative behavior.:
My son and she took a trip to Florida in 2009, the first year they were together.
There was a plan for a visit our cousins as well as visiting her aunt. Upon arrival to my cousins’s house, she almost immediately wanted to leave with my son to see her aunt. My son suggested he would stay and visit my cousins and they would give directions for her to see her aunt on her own as she was nearby. She left and very shortly returned claiming she got lost and insisted my son leave with her which he did.
In September of 2010, on the scheduled date for the meeting to discuss the baby shower with she, her mother, sister, girlfriend and myself, I received a telephone call 10 minutes before the scheduled time that it was canceled . My son called on behalf of her stating she does not want us to meet her mother that way and she feels her sister is too controlling. I was told there would be a dinner meeting to formally meet her parents before the baby shower planning. This never happened and I found it necessary to touch base with her sister to discuss re-scheduling the meeting. The baby was due the first week of November.
In May of 2011, I received a call from my son sending a message from her to stop all contact with her parents and sister. I was shocked and I asked for a reason for such a request. He replied by saying something that happened in the past but he could not tell me. I told him with the exception of the New Year Eve invite we are only sending e-mails for holidays and so forth so I do not see any harm in that and her mom sends me such lovely e-mails.
In July of 2011, her mother had contacted me by e-mail sending her phone number and suggesting we get together for dinner. This was a continuation to a conversation we had at the baby’s Dedication/Christening just one month prior. When she heard of this plan from her mother, she left a voice mail requesting we do not contact her family as they are her family members and she does not wish to combine families. I made phone contact with her mother to determine what she knew of this, if we were still getting together and she proceeded to tell me of her daughter’s disapproval of us getting together. I informed her mother of the phone call and she apologized profusely and we had decided to get together anyway however a few days later, she canceled and I have not received any e-mail from her since.
August 3, 2011, I sent a letter to her asking to meet with her to discuss ways to remedy a strained relationship between us.
August 4, 2011,she sent an e-mail to me at work with very hateful words and ending the letter with “Do not contact my family or friends or these issues will balloon. It is not your right and never was”.
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