Hello there, it is very common that people in sober living are asked to not contact anyone for a month. I understand that is hard but sometimes the addict can manipulate their loved ones to bring them alcohol or drugs. Also since alcoholism is a disease it affects the whole family, so this separation is needed to give some of the family members a break. Some treatment programs involve the whole family in the treatment. All family members receive therapy and attend groups separately from the addict. Treatments do separate the addict from the family member who is also called the co-addict. This will happen by the middle or end stages of the treatment. Your fiancé does not have any coping skills that will help her stay sober at this point. I understand that you want to be a supportive fiancé and want to be there for her but she will have to do this one on her own for the first month. I hope she can continue to be in recovery after that. Some treatment programs are better than others in keeping the family involved in treatment. I think having the family involved is very important in the late stages of treatment because it helps with family dynamics. Your fiancé will earn different levels when in treatment and she will be able to call you. I personally suggest that you see a therapist who specializes in addiction and that you join Al-anon meetings to help you receive some support.