Hi Dr. Micheal! Please excuse the delayed response to your reply. B/c I have an IPad it was unenabling me to open the link. My friend is a whiz and he helped me open the word document but all it had was your contact info. We'll try again today.
Ok, so first I felt such a weight lifted off of me. Your support helps me remain sane. Hearing words of encouragement that I had mental clarity was like getting an A on a report card. Unfortunetly, you will probably give me a "C" b/c as much as I obsessed over your words, constantly reminding myself to take things slow...I failed miserably.
Here's what happened: After my date with the Marine Gunnery Recruiter. I contacted him a few days later. Annoyed, b/c he had been MIA after our date....he told me he was stressed. His career may be in jeopardy b/c a recruit had on gauge earrings in bootcamp which is against the rules. Anyways he is lining up new jobs, and is awaiting a final ruling on his career. Stupid and strict right? So ridiculous. Anyways he told me he needed me, we had a heart to heart about it. I tried to cheer him up, one thing led to another and we had sex. The chemistry is explosive, it's damn hard to resist him.
Anyhow all these dating articles I'm reading said men love the chase blah blah, so of course now I feel panicky. Will I never learn? We slept together Thursday, and Friday I felt happy and sad
....I need a secure relationship before I have sex....blame it on the Oxytocin which is turning into Limerence. Anyways, logic dictates to me to pull back and somehow communicate I need him to be my bf. This is all- all contrary to your advice. What should I do? Now I have to find the correct coy, I like you but let's slow things down, stupid dating game that annoys the shit out of me :). Excuse my language.
Anyhow I'm not putting my ovaries in one basket, still talking to other guys but just for amusement. Oh! And my husband left me a note this morning saying he can't take the silence....he left for 2 weeks, he loves me, and when he returns he'll move out in Feb. YAY!!!! I'm so happy. Finally feel free :).
You are the best! I think I signed up for unlimited questions for 1 month.