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If you are feeling that this is not legitimate and you are getting a gut feeling that it's bad, it's a good idea to back off. You did the right thing blocking this person.
When you mentioned that she was asking you details like if they guys climaxed, that is a sign that this was not someone who was attacked themselves. This person was looking for a way to get sexually excited by the details of your attack. I doubt any of the information they gave you was legitimate. Someone who was attacked is not going to be concerned about those kinds of details of your attack. That kind of information is not important and no one needs to know that. If this person was attacked themselves, they would know that too.
This person is also being manipulative. They are trying to get you to feel sorry for them on the one hand by saying they won't be available later and they need to talk now, and they are also becoming angry with you when you won't communicate with them. Those are both signs of someone who is unstable. They probably go on these sites so they can use them for their own gratification.
People who are legitimate are going to be supportive and helpful, and not drill you for the details of your trauma. A person that has been through something similar would understand exactly how you feel about your attack. They would know that discussing details like this person was asking you to do would be painful. You did the right thing by blocking this person. You may also want to consider reporting them if the site allows it.
That is very odd and concerning. I know you told me what state you were in at the time of the attack and where you are now. Could that have been included by accident?
Other than that, there would be no way they could know. But even if there were legitimate and were attacked at the same place, their behavior is strange enough to warrant cutting off contact. Any issues they have are not your concern. You are on there for yourself and not to support them by providing traumatizing details of your attack. And the person's behavior is odd enough to say they could not be help to you anyway even if they were attacked by the same people.
No -- I purposely took out the name of the state and just said the "midwest." In my initial messaging with this person, I did tell them what state I lived in now, and my first name, which I obviously regret now. But there are dozens of similar colleges in that state. I just told my therapist about it, because I was supposed to call her anyway. Her initial reaction was that this is an unstable person with issues she's projecting on me. But then when I told her exactly what I said, she said she doesn't think there's any way someone could tell where it was. She said from the description of dorms, sorority house, road ... she said it fit her college campus as well. She said that those sites were probably very attractive to sexual sadist-type people/people who have been attackers/are attackers themselves, because they get the gratification of seeing how damaging their actions can be and also to "get off" on the terrible stories.
You don't think there is any possibility in the world that this person online could be one of the guys, do you? I don't feel that's very likely, but I am so disturbed by the whole thing. I rarely get such feelings. However, as you know, my emotions are already out of control this week, so maybe I am really overreacting and being paranoid.
I feel like if this person/her experences are legit, and there is a possibility it involved the same person(s), then I really owe her. But I am scared to have any communication now, and I agree (and my therapist just agreed, too) that these are not words that someone who has had this kind of experience would use, and that it's hard to imagine why anyone with a similar experience would ask those kinds of questions. It would never even dawn on me to ask those things.
The chance that this person was one of your attackers is extremely remote. How would they know it was you and when you would share your story? If it was right after the attack maybe, but not after so many years. That would be too much of a coincidence.
If this person had been attacked, they would not be asking you those things. If you wouldn't ask those things of another trauma survivor, then this person should not be asking them either.
It is disturbing to think that someone could get sexually excited over something so horrible. But there are a lot of mentally ill people who do. This person needs help and it's too bad they probably won't get it.
Sorry this happened to you.