I think your daughterdoes all those things to avoid feeling anxious. It sounds like she is aperfectionist. Wanting to be perfect causes her anxiety. Whendid this behavior started? Sometimes children will outgrow this as they learnto calm themselves down. One exercise Ido with children is to tell them that sometimes school or work gets stressfulfor everyone. I ask them to visualize a pet or a place they love when theybecome anxious. For 7 year olds I tell them to do this when they get that funnyfeeling in their stomach, (or for her when the noise of others becomes loud). Shemay be stressed out about school even if she is doing really well and gets goodgrades. Have you talked with her about how she likes school and if she has anyfriends? You can help her by praising her when she does behaviors that are notperfectionistic, such as saying I like when your socks are down. I also suggestthe book the highly sensitive child.
Thanks for letting know. I think you can tell the teacher what you told me. You can tell her how your daughter is a perfectionist and works well with a lot of praise and encouragement. Does your daughter needs more structure from the teacher? If so tell her that she works well with structure in the classroom. If she is distructed the teacher may want to try to put her in the frond of the class. Maybe she needs a bit more help and I am not sure if there is after school help or tutoring. You can tell your daughter that it is ok that she needs extra time to finish her work. It is normal for some people to want to do a good job and take longer. I also wonder what help has the school provided to support your daughter's education. You can ask the teacher how "we can help her improve?". Is there anything I can do at home? Is there something than can be done at school without taking away from lunch? She probably talks because she wants to socialise. She does not get to socialise at lunch. Good luck with this. IF you get no results keep making appointments with the teacher to problem-solve. If she needs more help the school has to provide it. Also you may want to suggest testing by a psychologist to see if you have a gifted child or a child that learns differently and what help she needs.