Hi Dr. Michael,
I separated (temporarily?) from the man who was with me for the past year. However, I still feel guilty that he has put so much into the relationship and I feel that maybe I am selfish.
In this relationship, he stayed at my apartment but kept his apartment rental because I would not tell him to give it up--since I was not convinced the relationship was right for me.
He helped me deal with family issues--my family of origin--since my father died.
Also, he did
the cooking for us and he drove me anywhere I needed or desired to go. He did most of the grocery shopping.
I never asked him for anything but he kept doing and insisting on doing more things for me.
I took care of his dog who was diagnosed with cancer early in the relationship , for months, until she died. Now I have been taking care of his puppy since he leaves early in the morning and comes back around 6PM or so.
I did not offer much in the bedroom. I lost my libido a week after I met him and kept seeing him as reminding me of my father in different ways (I loved my father but never wanted to marry or sleep with him!) I did think he was attractive but the smoking made him look older than I was comfortable with...
Now I feel depressed because I miss him, I miss my father, and the dogs are sad