Hi, I need some help. My girlfriend and I haven't had sex since April 2011. She doesn't want to have sex till marriage now. We have been together for 4 years and I want to be with her but having sex has consumed my mind and it's all i think about and it's effecting my work and school life. I masterbate but its not helping. I am considering cheating.what should i do?
Added additional: I am 33 and never married also I didn't have a lot of sex in my teens and twenty's.
is this something you can answer?
Hi Dr Michael,
Thanks for you response. I can give you some more background on this. There is no wedding date and no time table. My girlfriend is Pakistani and her parents don't know of me yet. The last time we had sex was April 2011. In August 2011 i brought up saying we need to have sex. She said she didn't want to have sex anymore till marriage because she had an "experience" when she visited Pakistan last January 2011 and she doesn't feel it's right to have sex till marriage. We are still affectionate kissing but no act of sex involved.
I totally agree with your options and I will take these approachs.
Added: a part of me was thinking is she testing me? seeing if sex is more important then her? don't know just thinking out loud. Have to have the conversation with her.