Good morning, I believe my husband is going through mid life crisis. Also, he has a drinking problem, does'nt have a good relationship with our son, and he's having an affair. He's very distant and does'nt want to do anything with us. I know that he wants to be single, but is not doing anything about it. he does not communicate so I have no clue of his plans. I'm making an appointment with a therapist. Should I make the appointment for the entire family or only my husband an myself ?
I also confronted him about the affair many times, but he never admits to it. He just wants me to be quiet about it, as he has no intentions of ending it.
I'm concerned with how this is affecting my 13 yr old son. We just ignore him and I know that it's not right to live this way.
We have not been intimate for 2 yrs because there were problems (drinking) that led me not wanting to. He's probably had many affairs, but this one is more serious. He stays out, all the time, uses his friends to make up lies. Comes home 3, 4, 7am in the mornings. On a strict diet, dressed young, obssessed with self etc. . . .
Last question. What type of therapist will be best to deal with my husband, because he's reluctant as it is. We saw a therapist about 2 yrs ago, but my husband only went once. That was very hurtful to my son and I. It proved that he did'nt care to fix the problems. He also compplained that he did'nt want to talk to a young white women about his problems.
I know this is very immature. So what type of therapist would you recommend. Male, female, nationality, young, old etc... ? Someone that he will feel the most comfortable in order to open up.