Again, common sense, wow, you amaze me, why can't I be like you ? I seem to be too deep in the forest to see the trees. Even the Sequoia.
I forgot that I had to power to disconnect the internet, I never have been great on this kind of thing, but it did work, and it will again. I hope, to get my message across,
don't mess with Mom.
Mainly, though, I don't see the internet as the major thing in our son's life - our son also reads, real books, he has a stack of them everywhere in his room. When I asked him to dust and clean my library, I should have known, he spent the day and several more days, sitting on the floor reading various assorted books of internet to him, that he came across. He has been introducing his girl friend to the world of intellect also, she does not have that background but now is studying grammar books and improving her vocabulary. Thanks to our son. I have always been happy for that with him, because I am the same. It has stood me well.
I guess I don't think of the internet as a play toy - he looks things up, researches, defines words from the books that he is reading, and his phone is not all that important to him either, normally he has his little girl friend carry his phone around, she uses it to call her family in Ohio, that is fine with me, and doesn't even bother with it himself. I use the cell phones as my inter-com system, I hate calling and yelling for anybody and this house is small but not so small, calling anybody from room to room or end to end is impossible without a cell phone, he was not answering today again so I did tell him that the phone exists Only for me to call him and for him to answer me, otherwise, it has no value and I will turn it off.
Better Late Than Never,
I just disconnected the wire to his computer. LIke you said, no muss nor fuss, wish I had thought of it this morning. Sometimes I am so bloody slow witted. I was shocked, shell shocked, at his manner towards me.
Husband Jose' has told me over the years that he fears his own temper and reactions and that to stay a safe adult, he can not allow himself to get angry at the kids nor to ever raise a hand to them or he may do serious damage. He says he has an intense anger problem but I have never seen it over the 25 years we have been married. I did not see this, only the results of a bloody mouth, and swollen face, Once he did punch one son so hard that he was knocked down, bleeding, but then my husband just left - started to run and didn't come back for a couple of hours of running from what I got out of it. He swore he would never lift a hand to anybody else in his life after that episode. That son also was an adopted child perhaps 16 at the time, caught stealing book bags at school for the electronics and money in them, then throwing the book bags in the garbage, who had learning and emotional disabilities but had been rude to him. We caught him because our youngest son told us what was going on, but that son was never caught by the school, or it would have meant jail time.
I have to add
here, that son never, Never , was rude to my husband again, and that happened about, 9 or 10 years ago. Also, that son will call his dad first, not me, about anything. I don't think the human race has really in truth progressed all that much from caveman days mentally or emotionally, only technologically.