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I have been very depressed. I am going through a divorce which

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I have been very depressed. I am going through a divorce which isn't final for more than two years; I have two orders of protection against me (mostly from alcoholism) against my wife, her older daughter from another marriage and my 7 year old. This OOP has been held against me strictly by my wife. I had only been able to see my daughter supervised for one day a weekend; my parents (who are in their late seventies) have been driving down (it is a 2 1/2 hour trip one way) but my wife has been oblivious to that. The older daughter - who I have been a father figure to for more than ten years - does not want to have anything to do with me (the last time she spoke to me she called me a piece of s*&!). Recently I have been granted four hours unsupervised with my 7 year old; my wife was totally against that. I do not get to see her a often as I would like and miss her terribly. I also miss the home I used to live in. I have a therapist but she is not helping me enough to waylay my depression. I know that this is the holiday season but I have been feeling like this for a long time. Any advice would be appreciated.
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC replied 2 years ago.

Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.

 

It is very common to experience depression when you are faced with so many adverse situations. You mentioned having an order of protection, being separated from your children, having one of your children upset with you and missing your home. That is a lot! Add alcohol use to it, which you probably know is a depressant, and your depression is a natural consequence.

 

Also, depression is closely related to anger. And there are many issues in your life that can cause you to feel very angry. The situation with your wife and your daughter are both difficult. And being kept from seeing your daughter as well as having legal involvement is not only extremely frustrating, it can cause you anger because of the lack of control over your circumstances.

 

It is also very possible that you are experiencing grief. You have gone through many losses, including your family, home and to a certain extent, your freedom (not being able to see your daughter when you wish to). Grief is a powerful emotion that can catch people off guard. And it can greatly impact your life.

 

You mentioned that your therapist is not helping you. In that case, you may want to consider trying to find someone else to help you. Finding a therapist you click with is much like searching for a good doctor. Sometimes you need to try a few before you find one you can work with. Try asking your doctor for a referral, or you can search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.

 

Also, learning more about depression, anger and grief can help you. The more informed you are about your symptoms, the better you can help yourself. Support and self help are vital in helping you overcome depression, anger and grief. Consider support groups, either on line or in person. People who are experiencing the same symptoms as you are can offer invaluable support, ideas and companionship to help you feel better. Also, working on your depression and other symptoms at home can supplement your therapy or other treatment. Here are resources to help you get started:


http://psychcentral.com/resources/Depression/Support_Groups/


http://depression.supportgroups.com/


http://www.nami.org/


http://helpguide.org/mental/depression_signs_types_diagnosis_treatment.htm

 

http://helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

 

I hope this has helped you ,
Kate

Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC, Therapist
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