Hi, I think I can help you with your question.
I think you make some very valid points. Here is what seems to work about what you said:
How would you feel in my shoes?- this makes your doctor think about how you feel and possibly empathize with you.
Can you tell me anything in your notes that I don't know that you feel would help me?- you say this in general in your points. It would help to give the doctor options of sharing the information verbally and find a way to help you with it.
You ask for my full disclosure. I would like the same.- puts you and the doctor on equal footing. Plus it is a very valid point all by itself.
Sharing the notes encourages mutual respect- helps point out the trust issue between doctor and patient.
What doesn't work:
Any emotional response- i.e. you must respect me, don't treat me without respect, don't do that to me again, etc.- when you become emotional, it's too easy to reduce you, as a person, to someone who is illogical.
You analyze me so I should see my notes.- the idea is good, but it phrasing it that way makes it seem you are looking for an excuse to see the notes.
Expecting to go through the entire pages of notes line by line.- no doctor has the time or inclination to run through the pages and pages of notes they have. Plus sometimes they just jot down a random thought that may not mean anything when they say it. They are not going to want to share that.
You have a very well thought out argument. Although the law is on the doctor's side, you do make credible points about why you should see your notes. It is definitely worth the try.
I hope this helps,