Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
Although Overeater's Anonymous is the leader of the pack when it comes to overeating, there are many other support groups out there that can help you.
You mentioned trying everything out there available for you. That means you probably have tried Weight Watchers. They may not be an overeater's group per say, but the principles they teach about how to eat are valuable. Most people are able to follow the program, get adequate support and change their lifestyle rather than just going on a diet. They offer support for emotional eating as well.
I am not sure if you are looking for an online group, in person group or both. Here is a list of available groups for overeater's:
You may also find success with addressing your emotions through therapy. Sometimes overeating has more to do with your feelings rather than just a desire for food. Getting to the root of why you overeat can deal with the problem once and for all. Therapy is also a better option than medications. While medications are great if you are feeling so bad you are having a hard time functioning in day to day, they are not good for overeating in general. The side effects of medication often outweigh the good they do.
If you want to consider therapy, you can ask your doctor for a referral. Or you can search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.
You also may want to consider self help. While support is the best way to go, working on this issue at home helps as well. Here are some resources to help:
Eating the Moment: 141 Mindful Practices to Overcome Overeating One Meal at a Time by Pavel G. Somov
Overcoming Overeating: How to Break the Diet/Binge Cycle and Live a Healthier, More Satisfying Life by Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter
Overcoming Overeating: It's Not What You Eat, It's What's Eating You! by Lisa Morrone
Try your local library for these books. Or Amazon.com may have them for you.
You may also want to consider hiring a life coach to help you. Having someone to partner with, talk to and to guide you can make a big difference in your search to find a way to cope with overeating. Here are some sites to get you started:
I hope this has helped you,Kate
It sounds like you have been through everything to try to find some kind of balance regarding your weight loss. It is very understandable that you are frustrated and want answers.
It seems therapy did work for you at one time. There is alternative low cost therapy available through community mental health centers. And they tend to have a mix of therapists, many of whom have extensive experience given the wide range of clients they see on a daily basis. Try contacting the United Way for information about your local center. They also should have a listing of all the resources in your area regarding programs for weight loss.
Finding a normal for weight loss and maintenance may take some time. Like you said, you have been through a lot to try to find a way to cope with your ups and downs. If you would like to continue to work with me on Just Answer, I would be happy to try and help. Also, the resources listed in the answer may also help you find some better ways to cope with the weight gain and help you get back on track to where you want to be.
I would very much enjoy working with you. You can set the pace and decide what you need regarding frequency of your questions. Most people who work with experts pay as they go. Some do it per answer and some every few answers. It is completely up to you. I will use "information requests" as often as I can to help us talk, exchange information and get to know each other.
Once we have several posts, you may want to start new questions or threads. That helps keep the questions from loading too slowly and becoming too much for the Just Answer system to handle. If you start a new question, just put my name in front so when it's on the queue, the other experts know it's for me and not to answer it.
It may help to start at the beginning of your situation. That way, I can get some history to help me understand better what may be behind your weight issue. So far, you have given me a good idea of some of the highlights of the situation, which helps.
Let me start with a few questions. As a child, did you experience any type of abuse? What was the attitude about food in your family? Were your parents and/or siblings over weight? What was your family life like?
That information will help me get a better understanding of the origins of your issue with weight.
It sounds like you had a great childhood! The reason I asked is that sometimes people struggle with their weight if they have been abused, especially if they were sexually abused. People who were sexually abused often struggle for their entire lifetime with weight issues. But that does not sound like the case for you.
It may not be a matter of you sabotaging your weight loss. It may be something underlying in your emotions, an unresolved issue or some other influence. Many people struggle in life with issues not knowing that they can be caused by something that happened to them that they dismissed as unimportant. Or something they minimized so they did not have to look at it too closely. That is why I started with your childhood so we could slowly work through possible causes for your struggle.
You also mentioned a past history of thyroid problems. Have you recently been screened for a recurrence? How about any other physical issues that might cause the weight issues? I'm sure this has come up and you have addressed it, but I want to be thorough so we don't miss anything.
Also, what happened when you were 15 that changed your weight? Was there an incident of any type, a change in your life or any other thing that stands out to you at that time?
You can press accept for each answer provided if you wish. You can then continue the thread for a while. But once the thread gets too long, the moderators will usually contact you to ask that you start a new thread so the system isn't compromised. Whenever I've worked on other long threads, it will take a while for them to load and eventually they will just sit and not load at all. I'm assuming it's because of the way the system is set up. I just wanted to give you a heads up so you know before hand.