Hi! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
You know, I deal in couples therapy with women who are unhappy because their husbands go on trips with their male friends or fellow professionals and there are women at the conferences and they go to cocktail parties, etc. These wives are very unsettled and hurt. They want their husbands to stop because it can lead to something. Not that it DID lead to something, but that it could lead to something.
The question I then ask the husband is why these trips are more important to him than his wife's feeling at ease? Agreed he has no intention of cheating, but why would he want to put his wife through the fear and agony?
This leads to a lot of opening up about where there is closeness in the marriage and where there is not that emotional intimacy.
So, I have the same questions here: why are these trips more important to your wife than your discomfort about them? Why would she not want to ease your worries by taking trips where there is no close socializing with men without you being there?
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.